Confused about what men think? Read on for ten things that guys wish you would realize!
10. They hate your ex. No matter how pleasant your breakup is, or how well your ex-boyfriend treated you, your current guy hates him. And more importantly, doesn't want to hear about him. There's almost nothing that will alienate a man more quickly than hearing about your ex. So leave any comments about him to your friends, and keep your current guy out of it.
9. They will always look at other women. This almost needs no explanation. Men will look at beautiful --or even not so beautiful-- women until the day they die. The only thing that will change is how good they get at hiding it from you. So don't get worked up about it-- it's going to happen, and it doesn't mean a thing.
8. Just because they don't think of nice things to do doesn't mean they don't care. Women are natural caretakers; it's instinctual for them to make sure everybody is happy and taken care of. But for men, consideration and caretaking doesn't come as naturally as it does for women. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, but don't take it personally when you don't get it without asking.
7. They want your help at sex. Most men like to think they're good in bed. And many men are. But many are also far less good than they believe... and all men want to be better. While many men don't like to be ordered around in bed, most do like a little well-given instruction. Every woman's body is different; most guys are more than happy to learn what pleases you.
6. Just because they don't say it doesn't mean they don't appreciate or love you. Women are big on communicating most of what they're thinking and feeling. They want to be sure that their feelings are made clear, and that everybody is on the same page. Men don't generally work this way. Your guy probably loves and appreciates you just as much as you hope he does. But just because he forgets to say "thank you" or doesn't say "I love you" as often as you like doesn't mean he doesn't feel it.
5. Guys will generally be as bad or as good as you require them to be. Some men don't allow themselves to be influenced by women in any way. But most of them do-- and more than you might think.
4. They love your body just as it is, and would like to see it naked more often. Men have all sorts of standards for what they want in a perfect woman. But that doesn't mean they don't enjoy the sight of a less-than-perfect naked woman. Especially if he loves you, he'll notice your flaws a heck of a lot less than your good parts. So let him see you!
3. You look better without all the makeup. No, it's not cellulite or stretch marks or too-wide hips. If I've heard any complaint about a woman's appearance most often, it's this one: she wears too much makeup. Yes, men like to date women who look pretty and sexy. But if your face looks completely painted on, most men don't like it. Keep your makeup looking natural, and you'll have a much better chance of keeping your man happy with your looks.
2. Sometimes sex is just sex. While some women are able to have sex simply for the physical pleasure of it, for most women, sex means more than just fun. Sex symbolizes intimacy and commitment and love and all of that nice, gooey stuff. For men, though, it doesn't necessarily work that way. If they're not in a relationship and they're given a chance to have sex with you, they probably will. Seem obvious? It should be, but some women still forget.
If he's classified himself as "just looking for fun" on his internet dating profile, I can promise you he doesn't want more. Even if you do.
1. If they're with you, they like you. This is one of those things that women torture themselves about all the time. "I don't know if he really cares for me" or "Does he even like me?" If he's spending time with you, if he's calling you, then he likes you. There's no need to be all angsty about it. If he's there, he likes you. If he's not with you, he doesn't. Most men are pretty clear-cut that way.
Julietteisreal
42 / Female
Comments: 5
Posted on July 21, 2009, 1:42 pm
When I am with a guy Itdon't look at other guys, it's common courtesy and I wouldn't be with a man who doesn't have the same degree of respect for me. I've even made faces at men who leer at me when they are obviously with a woman at the time!
Tom_Petty
42 / Male
Comments: 6
Posted on October 29, 2009, 12:53 pm
I think the article is correct, we men look at other women all the time but I don't think you ladies should get upset. When we stop looking then you should be concerned.
