Sound the alarm! You’re over thirty and still single. The world must be coming to an end. Or… maybe it just feels that way. All of your girlfriends are marrying, having rugrats, and settling down while you’re still playing the internet dating game. Wishing for a time when things were simpler? Wishing there wasn’t so much pressure, especially from yourself, to be in a relationship?
#5 – Your Expectations Are Higher
Expecting more from a relationship can put a lot of pressure on you and your date. In your teens and 20s, dating was all about having fun and… that was it. Now it’s about settling down. But that’s a good thing! When expectations are high, you don’t find yourself wasting time on unsuitable, or awful, guys. You know what you want, and you expect to get it.
#4 – You're Not a Kid Anymore
You probably feel like you’re too old to be doing the same things you were doing at 19; going on dates, fielding offers, gauging first kisses. However there are some major improvements when dating over 30. You no longer have to eat cheap, greasy hamburgers, sneak home after curfew, or agonize about when to have sex. You’re an adult, and dating takes on a new, more mature but just as fun, dynamic.
#3 – It's Harder to Go With The Flow
Dating is all about being relaxed, open, and up for anything… right? Sure, maybe when you’re 21 and actually are up for anything, but not anymore. Now, you know what you like, and are able to measure potential partners by how their interests match your own. Why go with the flow when you can be doing something you truly enjoy?
#2 – The Men are Too Settled
Young men are adventurous, optimistic, and open. Older men? Not so much. But they do have this: they know who they are. You can marry the young-and-promising Ivy League scholar at 22 and wind up with a laid-off, beer-bellied trucker ten years later-- after he’s figured out that he’s just not that into being scholarly. Since older men already know who they are, so will you.
#1 – You're Too Busy for Dating
Between juggling work and friends and all the things you love to do, you barely have time for dating. What all of this really means is you’re already your own woman. You have a life outside of men, outside of relationships, outside of him. Having a rich life of your own makes you more appealing to potential partners, and takes a lot of that “must spend every moment with you” pressure away from your relationships.
Katarina_HD
40 / Female
Comments: 30
Posted on June 23, 2008, 6:50 pm
Very true Chloe, great article. The way I see it, there are definitely more pros than cons.
