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I can hear you sighing already. Not another silly article with gimmicky ways to make a man fall in love with a woman. "Bat your eyelashes six times, then do three pirouettes and give him a kiss."

Don't worry. This isn't that type of article. Instead of talking about little tricks that some women use to make men think they're the best thing since sliced bread, I'm going to focus on what men love about women in general... and how to use those natural things in you to your advantage. It's all above-board, I promise.

1. Decide you're super hot

We all know that men are visual, physical beings. They see a gorgeous woman, and they want her-- which is something that they need in order to feel emotionally close. Fortunately for those of us who are merely mortal, you don't have to be Heidi Klum to make him go crazy for you. All you need to do is decide that you're just as hot as Heidi Klum... and a lot more fun and interesting.

If you decide for yourself that you're the hottest thing in town, he'll think so, too. You know you deserve the best guy there is, so why behave any differently?

2. Be fun to be around

Most men don't get excited about spending time with women who are always dramatic, always down, or always griping about something. They get excited about being with the fun and free spirited woman who loves to laugh and is always smiling.

Now, does this mean you need to be a clown for him and paint your face in a fake smile? Of course not. It simply means that you should try to relax and let go of the things that are bothering you when you're with him. Is your boss making you crazy? Don't complain about it, unless you can do it while telling a funny story and making him laugh. Not only is this a good way to make him look at you as somebody he loves to be around, it's also a good dynamic to establish for a new relationship.

3. Make him feel good

Apologies to any guys out there reading this, but...men love to have their egos stroked. If you can make him feel like he's the most incredible man on the planet, he'll fall for you with a quick and audible "splat." Do this by complimenting him, avoiding criticizing him, and, most of all, letting him do useful things for you. Doing things to make a woman happy makes men happy too-- solving problems and lending a hand makes them feel useful and fulfilled.

Sure, you can solve your work problem or bring the groceries in from the car on your own, and he knows it. But if you make the most of his sweet gesture, he'll make the most of you.

4. Be your own person

People only find unconditional, "all I need is you" love in the movies. In real life, relationships are based on two complete individuals-- two people with their own ideas and opinions and interests.

Truth is, most men aren't attracted to the woman who sits by the phone, waiting for them to call. They're attracted to the active, independent woman with a life and opinions of her own. If you think you can get him by being what he wants, think again. You'll get him by being yourself. And if you can't, well... you shouldn't want him, because he's not good enough for you.

5. Learn one very sexy trick

If you're a member of the "no sex before marriage" camp, you might want to stop reading at tip number four, because this one is all about the bedroom.

Everyone still here? I thought so! For men, sex and love are deeply intertwined-- and in just the opposite way that they are for us women. While women generally need emotional closeness in order to want sex, men often need physical contact in order to feel emotional closeness in the first place.

So, obviously, what happens in the bedroom can have a big effect on what he feels for you. My advice? Learn one little bedroom trick that will blow his mind. You don't need to get a PhD in the art of Kama Sutra or anything like that. Just learn one special thing, and learn to do it very well-- make it your specialty, so to speak.

Be the woman who did that thing he can't stop thinking about... and he won't stop thinking about you. And hey, look at it this way: you'll have a lot of fun in the process.

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