Falling in love feels amazing. Think of every cliché you've ever heard, and they'll all be true. You feel glowing... like you're walking on air... like your two hearts are beating as one.
But if you can't get her to love you back, all of those warm, happy, clichéd feelings will only cause you pain in the end, right? And you can't force her to love you, of course. But if she likes you and you have a good relationship to begin with, there are things you can do to facilitate her falling in love.
1. Be romantic and thoughtful
While men don't care too much about the little details, most men out there should know by now that we women do care. The little touches are what make us happy, make us feel valued, and make us fall in love.
This doesn't mean you need to shower her in expensive roses and jewelry. It simply means that you need to show her your romantic side. Do sweet things for her and make thoughtful gestures. Remember her favorite cake and have it baked for her birthday. Learn who her favorite author is and take her to a book signing when he or she comes to town. The more you show your own thoughtfulness, the harder she'll fall.
2. Compliment her and mean it
Everybody likes compliments. And while saying "I like your shoes" isn't going to make anybody fall in love, honest compliments can go pretty far. So make her feel like she is the sexiest, smartest, most amazing woman you've ever been out with... and mean it.
Wrack your brain and think of all the reasons that you're into her. Instead of keeping them to yourself, tell her. Even the smallest things can make her day. "I love the way your wrinkle your nose when you laugh," can be as great a compliment as "I love how smart you are." Be personal, be honest... and she won't be able to resist.
3. Make her value you
Think about the things you cherish most in life. Your college football ring, your old photographs, your expensive computer. These are all items you value... and love and value go hand in hand. You tend to love what --and who-- is most valuable and precious in your life.
One of the best ways to get a woman to like you (and eventually love you) is to show that you're worth her regard. You do this, really, by having your own life outside of your relationship. Don't always be there when she wants you (though always when she needs you, of course) so she values your time. Have people in your life who love you already, and make it clear that you're a great catch.
4. Be interested in what she has to say
This is pretty simple. Show that you respect her and are interested in her. Listen to her thoughts and opinions, and share yours equally. It's easy to lose track of who you both are as people at the beginning of a relationship, but... try not to. If you show that you know who she is and like her as a person (and not just a warm female body), you'll give her more reason to trust you... and open her heart to you.
5. Blow her mind in the bedroom
What, you thought sex only made men fall in love? Think again. Women, too, are physical creatures, and sex for us is very tightly bound up with love. So if you know how to please her --especially if you do it better than anybody else has before-- chances are, you'll get her to fall head over heels. Especially if she's already into you.
Think you're a good lover already? That doesn't mean you can't study up on how to be better. Learn her body and what makes her crazy. Be the best she's ever had and she'll be yours. Probably. And if not, you'll both have a lot of fun in the process.
Good luck!
SpiritedOne
42 / Female
Comments: 12
Posted on August 6, 2008, 8:31 pm
SO true! And to keep her in love with you...keep doing these things!
Sundancer
54 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on August 8, 2008, 10:59 pm
Im sorry girls I tried that for 27 yrs !! She just learned to expect it !! Did appreaceate the lil things Id pick up for her weather it was a lil knick-knack from a flea market just to let her know I was thnking of her to BRAND NEW CAR ? NEVER went to bar W/O her Of course I didnt approve of her in one W/O me ! I didnt stop her if she wanted to treated her with love and respect ! after 27 yrs she went out to a van while I sat for her ?? A 1/2 hr or so went by ! I got worried and went to seee if she was alright ? found her tucking in her shirt and pulling zipper up stepping out of van of a "friends" van ?? Any way if theres any lady out there that wants to give me 27 yrs of happieness and a fun filled adventurious life like she did Im willing to go for it !!
