1. You Lied. Everybody fibs a little on their internet dating profiles. They make themselves five pounds thinner to two inches taller. But if you have any big lies on your profile, you've got a bad profile no matter how well it reads to the unknowing observer. If you're on internet dating sites because you're really serious about a relationship, you need to be honest about who you are.
2. You're Cheesy. We've all heard 'em: "I'm the one you're dreaming about;" or "I'm the man of your dreams;" or "I will make your dreams come true." Basically, if it has the word "dream" or "desire" in it, it doesn't belong on your profile page. You may actually be the romantic person that the words you've chosen describe, but those words don't make you seem romantic. They make you seem cheesy. Even if you're 100% sincere, it's best to tone it down. You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.
3. You're Forgettable. In order to attract attention (and responses) to your internet dating profile, you've got to stand out from the crowd. And that means you've got to be memorable. The best way to do this is to avoid generalities and be really specific about who you are. "I'm a family law attorney" doesn't say much about who you are. But "I became a family law attorney because fighting for children's rights has been my passion since I worked in a daycare at age 16" does. To be memorable, you need to be personal and specific.
4. Your Photo Stinks. Or, worse, you don't have any photo up on your profile at all. One of the first things people look at on a dating profile is the photo, of course. And while it may not be easy to find an original, flattering photo of yourself, it's worth it to try. Ask friends and family for good photos, and put up as many interesting ones as you can.
5. You Went Overboard. While you want to be specific about who you are and what you're about, there is such a thing as saying too much. Don't give too much history and information about yourself, and don't bore your readers with too-long pieces of text. Most of us, have short attention spans, and don't want to take an hour to read a description of your perfect day out.
6. You're Unoriginal. One of the only bad things about the variety of dating options available on internet dating sites is, well... competition! If you blend in with the rest of the competition, you're not going to be noticed at all. The best way to avoid this? Take some time to look at others' profiles before composing your own. If a certain person seems to be targeting your same dating audience, look at his or her profile for what works well and what doesn't. And if you see the same thing repeated several times on several different profiles, always avoid putting it on your own.
7. You're Shallow. We all have preferences (including physical ones) about what we want from a potential partner. But it's not a good idea to advertise those on your profile, or you'll risk looking incredibly shallow. If you're looking to date a woman with large breasts or a man with dark hair and light eyes, keep it to yourself. You have every right to screen potential dates by their photos as they contact you; but physically describing the one you want may just scare away that perfect candidate.
8. You didn't have it proofread. Having a friend proofread your internet dating profile doesn't just help prevent typos and grammatical errors; it is also a good way to gauge the effectiveness of your profile in general. Show your profile to several honest, trustworthy friends, and listen seriously to what they have to say. If they feel like it doesn't present you clearly, or that you ramble at one point or another, listen to them. After all, the potential dates who look at your profile will be even more objective than your friends and family. So you need an objective eye.
Saint78
55 / Female
Comments: 5
Posted on December 22, 2008, 7:49 pm
Very good points, like to add beef for people who don't finish ALL their profile sections.
Hot-Flash
50 / Female
Comments: 13
Posted on December 23, 2008, 9:42 am
Saint 78, I couldn't agree more!
Poordeafman
41 / Male
Comments: 2
Posted on December 24, 2008, 1:21 pm
Yeah and too much fake and scammer dont like it
