No man is a mind-reader (and if he is, he probably doesn't need internet dating to find a date)! And because women are a little on the complicated side, it can be hard for guys to know exactly what they're looking for in an internet dating profile. Do women care more about the photo than the content like men do? Or do they want to hear about money and careers?
Of course, every woman is looking for something different when she visits a man's dating profile. But that doesn't mean that every profile will spark interest in some women. In general, there are several things that men tend to do wrong when putting together an online profile. These are the things that encourage the exact opposite reaction in women to the one you're looking for.
1. Your photo(s) displays your bad side.
(And I don't mean physically.) When choosing photos to show your guy friends, you'd probably choose the ones in which you look the coolest. But you don't necessarily want to do the same thing when choosing photos for women. All too often on internet dating sites, you come across men's profiles with photos of them looking drunk or angry or belligerent. This doesn't exactly create the impression with a woman that you want it to.
Let's put it simply: if you have even one photo of yourself shirtless, or flexing in front of the mirror, or drinking a beer, or flipping off the camera, take it off of your profile. When taken out of the context of your life (which is what happens when you show them to a person who doesn't know you) these sorts of photos create a not-so-positive impression of who you are. Instead, choose a good photo of you smiling into the camera and looking like you're having a nice time. Natural, normal, and easy.
2. There's not much on your profile.
You may think that your photo speaks to who you are enough to satisfy any woman. But that's simply not the case. Most women are looking for a man who not only has something interesting to say, but also goes to the effort of saying it on his profile. If you don't have any real information on your profile, and haven't filled out the sections allowing you to describe yourself, the women who arrive on your profile page will quickly click the "back" button. Take the time to write something that reflects who you are. Then take the time to grammar and spell check it. Believe me, when it comes time for women to respond to your profile, that small effort will make all the difference.
3. You talk too much about physical appearance.
Sure, you want a gorgeous girl who will never get fat or age. Don't worry... women already know this! So there's really no need to talk about it too much on your profile. In fact, there's no need to mention what you want physically from a girl at all. When it comes time to contact women or reply to the ones who contact you, you have full control over who you want to see and who you don't. So avoiding any talk about physical preference on your profile page won't do you any harm... and it'll make you appear a lot deeper and more sensitive to just the kind of women you're trying to attract.
4. You're negative about women.
We've all had bad experiences with the opposite sex. But even if yours have been particularly bad, don't talk about it on your profile. If you say even one negative or angry thing about the opposite sex, most women who come across your profile will immediately click away. Their thought? "If he says this on an internet dating site when he's trying to meet women, what he really feels must be a lot worse." Nobody wants that kind of emotional baggage, so don't put yours on display.
5. You brag.
For me, this kind of goes along with that silly photo of you flexing your pecs in the mirror. Bragging is such a turn off. If you're serious about finding somebody to be with on an internet dating site, don't brag about how buff you are, how successful you are, how much money you have, or how big your penis is. In fact, don't mention it at all. For nice, normal girls, this sort of behavior is a huge turn off.
6. You're desperate.
Romantic is good. But if your internet dating profile is dripping with romance (and loneliness), you're going to turn women off very quickly. Most women want a man who can be romantic; but nobody wants a man who seems sad and desperate. Do you tend to talk a lot about the perfect woman, or why you're so lonely, or use a lot of words like "heart," "soul," "princess," "love," etc.? Then you really need to tone it down, or risk turning her off.
Demi
41 / Female
Comments: 2
Posted on August 23, 2009, 12:37 am
Well, it's one thing to write an informative, well put-together, well-intentioned article. It's another thing wondering if the intended audience is going to take a moment to read it. And a whole OTHER thing if the intended audience will then take that extra step and actually IMPLEMENT at least some of the really great(and accurate) suggestions IN the article. One-outta-Three is a start, though! Cheers ~dsq
