In general, I like to think that we females are fairly fantastic. We’ve got the relative lack of overwhelming body hair, we’ve got the breasts, we’ve got that whole brilliant brain thing going on…plus, we’re overall just the prettier of the species. I’m just sayin’.
But our many wonderful attributes aside, there are some things we do that are downright annoying. So in the spirit of moving closer to our manifest destiny of unbridled perfection (eye roll), here are some little sore spots that need ironing out:
1) Focus on the issue. Always.
If he accidentally threw away your birthday card from your little cousin, express your anger over that. There’s no reason to turn a small he-flub into a confrontational breakdown about how he doesn’t respect you.
2) Watching romantic comedies
Okay, I’m not actually saying you can’t indulge in a little Cusack from time to time but letting it seriously affect your expectations in relationships isn’t only ridiculous, it’s possibly the biggest thing threatening your happiness.
Real life is real life. Waiting for a fairy tale and freaking out when you don’t have one causes women, over and over, to dismantle perfect imperfect love affairs with men who would totally hold boom boxes over their heads for them.
3) Looking for trouble
Text messages, emails, voicemails. Repeat after me, ladies: I will not snoop in mah boyfriend’s private stuff. If you need to snoop, it means you probably just need to have a conversation with your partner. And if you are convinced he can’t be honest, kick his skeevy ass to the curb. Even if he is lying/cheating/whatever, when you invade his privacy, you become the bad guy.
4) Waiting for guys to ask us out
We have the ability to speak, right? Not to mention, starting the ball off in your court can give you a new advantage you never knew about. Plus, when things work out and you fall wildly in love, you’ll get to take credit for spotting a good thing first.
5) Convincing ourselves our hearts will stay broken forever
If you dive into the dirty darkness of a breakup with the mental commitment to never getting over your recent ex, well, you still will, eventually, but it’s going to take a lot longer. We have to stop beating ourselves to death over failed relationships.
Keep in mind the other times you never thought you would be out of the heartbreaking pain. You did, right? And you will this time too. That’s the thought to keep in mind, while not ignoring your pain. Now pass the donuts.
6) Bailing on our friends when we get into a new relationship
Oh shut up, you’ve totally done this. We’ve all done this. And it’s a no-good, very bad thing. No need to really elaborate on this.
7) The silent treatment
Really? We’re still doing this? We all know by now that the person we’re dating might be the hanger of the moon and stars (of the keeper of the gates of hell, depending on how we feel about them at the moment) but one thing they are not is a mind-reader. Don’t get mad and then get even more angry when you significant other doesn’t immediately notice or know why you’re upset. You’re a big girl. Use your words.
FowlKon39
24 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on December 11, 2009, 11:25 pm
Oh, how many time have I had gone through the loops just because a girl did this.
Mort
37 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on December 13, 2009, 1:50 pm
8) Watching romantic comedies II
If you like them, fine. No-one's stopping you. But, PLEASE - if your significant other is not, um.. shall we say, a fan - PLEASE don't force it down our throats. It's quite selfish. I like sports, but my other doesn't. I don't force her to watch. Get it?
