Recently, I put together an article outlining the internet dating mistakes that women tend to make. And while men sometimes make the same mistakes the ladies do (and vice versa, of course), there are some mistakes that tend to fall to one gender or another. And guys, you have your problem areas, too!
Want to know where your gender tends to mess up the internet dating process? Read on for an overview of men's most common internet dating blunders.
Falling for a photo.
There's a really big reason why this one is at the top of the list: of all of these, it's probably the most common. Yes, it's important that you be physically attracted to a woman you meet anywhere, including online. But men have a much greater tendency to overlook negative or incompatible traits when looking at a pretty face. Sure, look at her photo. But also read her profile in depth and watch for signs that her personality isn't really compatible with yours-- just as you would with a less-attractive woman. Don't let your blind spot for a pretty face get in the way of finding somebody you'll actually, well... like.
Forgetting about "too good to be true."
When it comes to internet dating safety, many men tend to fall for the "too good to be true" profiles. When a woman is gorgeous, single, and crazy about you seemingly without reason, chances are she's putting you on. Don't let your eagerness get in the way of your brain. Make sure she's legit.
Putting too much sex out there.
You might be proud of the size of your penis or want to tell potential partners about your prowess in bed. But unless you're looking only for sex, keep the sex out of your internet dating profile. It will make women believe that you're only after that one thing. And chances are, they're able to find that one thing elsewhere. Keep it clean, and wait until the time is right to introduce sex into the conversation.
Being too sappy.
Men can be sappy and romantic just as much as women can. Sort of like the opposite side to same coin as the "too much sex" mistake above, too much romance can be a bit of a turn off. If you go on too much about how much love means to you, or how you want to share you're whole soul, you'll probably come off as desperate and sappy, not sweet and romantic. Women want romance, sure. But romance has to have context-- if you just put random romantic statements out there, it's not sexy, it's silly. This isn't to say, of course, that you shouldn't say anything romantic on your internet dating profile. But if that's all there is, you're going to have a hard time attracting "normal" women. Internet dating is about connecting with another person, not about "romancing" them.
Not reading her profile.
Most serious internet daters spend a lot of time composing their profile-- especially the women. If your first message makes it clear you haven't read her profile, you don't have a great shot at catching her interest. Make sure you read her profile, not only so you can respond intelligently to the information it contains, but also so you can gauge whether or not she'd be a good match for you.
Bragging and boasting.
Some women care a lot about how much money you make or what you can do. But ask yourself... is this really the kind of woman you want to have in your life? Don't use your internet dating profile as a place to brag. Even though you want to impress her, don't use your profile or your first contact email as a place to show off how great you are. This is something that a woman will see over time. A better way to go about it? Show her your personality, instead. That's what she should really care about, after all.
