It's a fact that there are lots of 'nice guys', especially on free internet dating sites. As a matter of fact I'm in a relationship with a really nice guy as I write this. It's also a fact that there are lots of bad boys out there. You know the kind I mean. The kind that women seem to flock to and make the nice guys want to throw in the towel, or worse yet, do a complete 180 and become one of the bad boys themselves.
It's not that women consciously throw themselves at bad boys, we don't. No, really, we don't! It just seems that way. And the reason for that can be summed up in one single, solitary word; confidence, with a capital C. Women are attracted to men who exude confidence; whether they actually have any or not. Confidence in their appearance, in their values and beliefs (such as they are), are powerful attraction magnets, and not every man has them.
That doesn't mean that nice guys have to turn into jerks just to attract women. At the end of the day, a jerk is just that, a jerk, and though we may date them, I can honestly say that I wouldn't settle down with one, and neither would any woman that I know. It does mean that a nice guy with confidence can pack a double, irresistible whammy.
So you don't have confidence? Well guess what, chances are that very few men actually do. The ones that radiate it are just better at faking it than you are. Exhibiting a 'yeah, I like you, but I got along just fine before we met' kind of attitude, THAT'S confidence.
You may think the way to a woman's heart is to give in to her every whim and request. If you think that way, I hate to burst your bubble, but buddy, you're way off the mark. That kind of attitude will get you only one thing; the prize for being the number one doormat. I'm not saying that you should never give in, just not all the time! Stand your ground. If you really can't stand romantic comedies or thoroughly detest going to baseball games, then don't! Staying true to yourself, THAT's confidence, and will gain you a heck of a lot more respect.
