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The typical bad boy is cocky, arrogant, and selfish. He treats women badly, and basically does whatever he wants whenever he wants to do it. So why do women find him so darned sexy? It only gets women in trouble and frustrates the heck out of the nice guys; after all, it’s the nice guys who are actually worth a woman’s time in the first place!

Women love Bad Boys. It’s not fair for you guys out there, and it’s not healthy for us girls. But it’s not going to go away anytime soon.

An Elemental Attraction

Take it from a woman who drools over any guy wearing a leather jacket and a cocky smile. There’s something elemental and intangible about the bad boy. Perhaps it’s simple genetics; we want that caveman guy who oozes confidence and capability. Who’s not afraid to say what’s what. Even if the “what” isn’t very nice.

Most women claim that we want to have equal footing in our relationships, or even that we want to have the upper hand. But our love for bad boys belies our claims; what we really want is somebody ultra-masculine and powerful. At least in the short term. Fortunately for you frustrated and lonely nice guys out there, most women learn their lesson after their first couple of bad boys. We might admire them from afar (heck, even Charlie Sheen still has a generous female following), but once we’ve been burned once or twice, we learn to steer clear.

The Fixer Upper Factor

Another thing that attracts many women to the bad boy is the fixer upper factor. Many bad boys have lived hard lives and don’t know how to stay out of trouble. Unfortunately, we love that about them. We dream of being the one glorious woman who was worth changing for, worth being good to keep. Sounds like it comes straight out of a romance novel, doesn’t it?

It almost never happens. Sure, it’s possible to “fix up” a bad boy… kind of. But in general, bad boys who easily change their ways for a woman weren’t real bad boys to begin with. They were looking to change. Most true bad boys stay that way-- either they’re bad boys for life, or they change because they want to… usually after the age of 50.

For any nice guys out there fuming over bad boys getting all the girls… try not to let it bother you. Most women eventually learn what’s good for them-- and what’s not. In the meantime, it doesn’t hurt to pretend to be a little bad. And for all you women (like me) who just love those bad boys? Have all the fun you want with your bad boy of choice, but don’t fall in love with him… you’ll just be asking to have your heart broken.

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needsomelovin

Posted on June 18, 2008, 9:10 pm

Always meet the bad boys,i attract them,but i like the bad boys alot of fun

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SMIT3004

Posted on June 30, 2008, 5:00 am

I DO TO KINDA

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