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Being dumped is one of the most embarrassing and painful experiences you can have. And it happens all too often. You're in what seems like a happy, healthy relationship when, out of the blue, your partner tells you they aren't happy. And that they want out. Most of the time, you never even get to find out what went wrong; when you ask, you get nothing but lies and excuses.

You've been dumped, you get no closure, and you don't have a clue what went wrong.

Recently been dumped out of the blue? While your chances of finding out exactly what went wrong with a particular failed relationship aren't good, there may some hints and signs that will give you an idea of what parts of your relationship didn't work. And by examining what went wrong with a past failed relationship, you might be able to prevent having a partner's sudden and complete 180 catch you off guard in the future. You can't turn back time on being painfully dumped, but you can prevent it from happening the same way again.

One of the most common reasons a relationship's ending might catch you off guard is if you weren't facing some big issues in your relationship. When you're happy with somebody, it's easy to pretend that everything is perfect, even when it isn't. But you may not realize that the issues that seem small (or at least temporarily ignore-able) to you were larger to your partner. Not facing those issues only made them worse.

Oftentimes, people who are suddenly dumped had signs that negative issues were taking over the relationship, or that their partner wasn't happy in general. In the desire to live in romantic bliss, it's all too easy to pretend those signs aren't there. You think to yourself, "He's just busy. I'm sure he'd spend more time with me if he could." Or "She's been moody around me lately, but so what? It's probably her period." But deep down, you know something's up.

Another reason why a relationship might end suddenly is that, in reality, you didn't even know what the relationship was. When we don't communicate with the people we're dating, it's perfectly natural to make assumptions about what's happening in the relationship, or where we both stand. Unfortunately those assumptions are often wrong.

It frequently happens that one person in a relationship thinks things are more serious than they are... and pays the price when the other party ends things suddenly. If you and your ex-partner never talked about what your relationship was or what it meant to you both, there's a good chance that a few signals got crossed at some point. And that you took the relationship more seriously than he or she did.

Having a relationship suddenly end is very painful. You lose somebody that you were attached to (or even loved) and you get rejected, all without understanding what you did wrong. But being dumped can also be a learning experience. If you're willing to look at your relationship and what may have gone wrong head-on, you have a good chance of avoiding having the same thing happen next time.

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