Most single people claim that they'd like to find that somebody special one day. And many of them - like the people using free internet dating sites - are out there looking for him/her right now. Finding somebody special can be hard... even with the great tools we have here at Datepad, there's plenty of pain and frustration involved. Some people work through their frustration and never give up on finding that special someone. Others, though, give up all too easily, using excuses to justify their inability to find a partner.
We're all guilty of being weak and frustrated sometimes. And if you occasionally feel that way, it's perfectly okay. But it's important that you look at your situation for what it is, and that you take responsibility for your own happiness. No, you can't make love come to you. But with the right attitude, you can feel like you've taken your destiny into your own hands.
Guilty of giving up? Read on for the top five excuses people use when they fail to find love. Some of them might sound familiar.
Excuse 1: Nobody seems interested.
The threat of rejection is a scary thing; it keeps many single people sitting in the corner, hoping that that special someone will come by and ask them out. But it just doesn't happen that way. If nobody seems interested in you, it may be because you don't seem interested in them. If you don't put yourself out there, your chances of finding somebody will be that much less.
Excuse 2: I'm a magnet for the wrong kind of guy/girl.
When you've been through several failed mini-relationships (or failed to get any relationships off the ground recently) it's natural to feel this way. But look at your situation a little differently. If you tend to attract the wrong kind of person, the fault may lie in where you're looking or how you're behaving. For instance, if you tend to look for singles in the same kind of places again and again, there's a good chance you'll find the same kind of people again and again. Or if you always try the same lines or use the same methods to find a date, maybe it's the bait that's the problem, not the fish.
So yes, it's possible to meet the wrong kind of people over and over again. But fortunately, you have it in you to do something about it!
Excuse 3: I'm in the wrong place at the wrong time.
It's very, very common for people to think that there's just nobody worth meeting in their area. "All the good ones are taken!" Sound familiar? But unless you live in a tiny little town, one glance at an internet dating site for your location will give you an idea of the number of singles you have nearby. There are plenty of interesting people everywhere in your city; you simply need to start looking in new places, and do it with a positive attitude.
Excuse 4: You have goals to accomplish first.
Everybody has a life that takes up time and energy and leaves them feeling a bit drained. But using the things that you need to accomplish as an excuse to put off finding love is just too easy-- and never really works. Why? Because there's always something you'll want to get accomplished. But there's only one "now." So whether it's lose weight or get that promotion or learn to knit, using your goals as an excuse to drop out of the game of love will never help you find it.
Excuse 5: Only weirdos use internet dating sites.
This is an excuse that you often hear from people who have never tried internet dating. They assume that the internet is a haven for rejects and losers who can't function in the real world. But that's simply not true. If you haven't been able to find somebody with traditional dating, internet dating is a very good option. These days, most people you'll find online are just like you-- normal people without tons of time to spare who would love to find that special someone.
The truth is, excuses never did anybody any good. Take your future in your own hands, and find ways around the things that are preventing your happiness. It's all too easy to wallow in frustration. Dig your way out of your hole and get out there. You never know what rewards your positive attitude may bring.
