Men! We know you think women are sometimes impossible to figure out, perhaps difficult to please at times, and that we are totally different creatures from yourselves. We agree! We also think that you might appreciate a few suggestions on how to handle yourself on your very first online date. Here is a quick reference guideline especially for men to make you shine and stand out from the pack.
Make the plan: Be a man
We love it when you come up with a suggestion or two. That take-charge attitude is just a turn-on for us and very masculine. We like when our men look after us; it gives us a break.
Dress up
When you put some thought into your outfit, what we hear you saying is, “I am doing this for you!" Besides, what's so bad about looking hot (and believe me, anyone can look hot with a little effort). We love your self confidence. Show it to us.
Smell nice
Want to stir things up a bit? Nothing says romance and seduction more than fragrance. Keep it fresh, clean and light and watch us purr. We adore knowing you did that especially for us.
Bring a gift
Even if all you can think about is bagging us, we want to believe you are being thoughtful. A gift is an offering and it doesn't have anything to do with size. It really is the thought that counts. How about a small potted plant, a box of special tea or a tiny stuffed animal? It's something small that we will never forget and you don't want us to forget you, do you?
Drive to meet her
Big brownie points for this. If you only want to meet halfway, or even worse, have us find our way to your neck of the woods we'll will probably assume you are lazy or don't care enough to put the effort in. We don't want a future partner who is inconsiderate.
Don't be late
Nothing is worse than keeping a woman waiting at a table by herself. It’s better if you are early. You can scope out a nice seat for us, turn off your cell and come up with some interesting questions. It's one less thing that will turn us off and one more thing to put a smile on our face.
Call if you are running late
If you're running late because you got lost (imagine that!) or you find yourself caught in accident related traffic, we'll understand and forgive you: as long as you call. If you're really behind schedule, let us know as soon as possible. Then we can take our time getting ready and be fresh for you, without perspiration.
Turn off your cell
I am pretty sure there isn't a woman out there who wants to compete with your Justin Timberlake ring tone. We want to be #1, just like you do.
Be a gentleman
Walking into a room ahead of us or not standing when we first meet gets our back up and has us wondering if you have forgotten why we are meeting in the first place. When you open the door or pull out our chair or ask us what we would like, we couldn't feel more special.
Ask questions
There is nothing worse than when we feel we have to carry a dead-end date, conversation-wise. We love when you make the effort to show genuine interest in us and you will really score big if you listen to the answers.
Eye contact
An old proverb says that if you lock eyes with someone for more than five seconds you are either going to kill them or make love to them. We are willing to take our chances. If you are a little shy, try looking at our nose. We won't know the difference.
Don't talk about sex
We want you to want us for our dynamic personalities and quick wit, before our irresistible bodies. Some things are best left unsaid on a first date. This is one of them.
Laugh
If you ask a woman what she is looking for in a man, a great sense of humour would probably be in the top five. So make us laugh. That's a connection we are all looking for. Life can be way too serious at times.
Compliment her on something unique
Don't just say that you think we're beautiful. That is uninspired and we know you say that to all the women you find attractive. What we truly want to hear from you is something specific about us that really stood out for you. Compliment us on our interesting necklace or the way our nose crinkles when we smile. We want to stand out and we work hard to do just that.
Don't drink too much
A good rule of thumb is to order a new drink when your date does. If you can't enjoy our company or even feel comfortable without being buzzed, we will have you pegged as a possible problem drinker.
Don't flirt with the servers
Watching you flirting with someone else doesn't make you more attractive to us. It actually puts negative thoughts in our head and while you are preoccupied with checking out the server's barely there little black skirt, we will be planning our escape.
Don't have your best friend show up to check us out
When your old college friend just happens to stop by our table we feel like we are auditioning for something. This is not a good thing to pull and you will lose any ground you gained by not drinking too much. Anyway, what if after all that trouble, we end up liking your friend more than you.
Order dessert
Take your time, spend the dime, say to us "Let's order dessert!" and watch our eyes light up. You don't want us to wonder why you are rushing out, do you? We know one of the ways to your heart is a great meal; for us, it's desert! Besides, we already decided to ignore the diet gods for this special date. Don't take that away from us.
Pull out your credit card
You aren't going to like this one. We really don't want to pay for ourselves, even if you might think so from what we are saying. We have enough things to worry about on a first date, such as how we look. The money issue can put a damper on a great date, so even if you aren't that rich, we view this as an act of good will and an indication of your character.
Posted on March 13, 2008, 1:29 am
Chivalry is back! I agree that a man should pay for the dates (unless its some kind of special occasion, like a birthday, that the women is planning). Interesting points. Thanks for the article!
AlreadyThere
25 / Female
Comments: 2
Posted on April 22, 2008, 12:18 pm
Well said, Tuna... I enjoyed this article Amie.
Glace
22 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on August 17, 2008, 12:41 pm
Men, for your own good, please do NOT listen to this! The title is true, this is what women want men to do. However, this is NOT what would make a women ATTRACTED to you. What this article is saying is, put women on a pedestal, act like THEY are the prize, prove yourself that you are worthy to them, and seek their approval and validation. However, all this makes her the superior one and you the inferior one. Women are attracted to SUPERIORITY not inferiority. To get women attracted to you, you have to act like you are the prize, and make women work for your approval. This means evening the playing field with examples like, no gifts unless she has something for you, meeting her halfway, and sometimes making her pay for her meal and not have to owe you anything. This will make you the superior one. Women love being with a superior man.
Soapy
30 / Male
Comments: 3
Posted on January 6, 2009, 2:33 am
Too bad that you can only attract young girls by treating them like shit... if you want a real women, you need to be a little more sophisticated than that. I also don't KNOW WHY I sometimes CAPITALIZE words.
Roses4mysoul
69 / Female
Comments: 21
Posted on February 4, 2009, 5:17 pm
Glace, I couldn't disagree with you more. Amie, you are so right on!!! I only hope more guys read your article and take it to heart. Enough of the "little boys" who act badly. It's even worse if you are over 60 and think Glace is right.
