Putting together a great free internet dating profile is one of the most important parts of being successful at finding love online. When you contact somebody, the first thing you look at is their profile: do they appear attractive, do they have things in common with you, are they funny or interesting? And when they look at your profile, will they feel the same way about you?
Without a good free internet dating profile, you won't get very far online. But before you can even get people to look at that profile, you've got to get their attention first (especially if you're a guy, as men generally are the ones who make first contact). That's where your attention-getting email comes in. When somebody's profile (or, let's be honest, their photo) captures your attention, your job is to capture theirs, as well. The best way to do this is with an original, funny, and interesting email.
For most people, this is a lot harder to do than it sounds. So instead of working hard to ensure that their first email will be well received, they put together a mish-mash of a hundred things that a hundred other internet daters have already said before. "I think you sound interesting." "You look very pretty." "I'd love to see you sometime." Most of what they say doesn't tell the recipient anything about who they are or how they feel; and so very little of it captures his or her attention.
Fortunately, there are plenty of great ways to make that first email stand out. The tips below will help you to capture that ultra good-looking (or ultra interesting) guy or girl's attention... and to have a greater chance of success with internet dating.
Read his or her profile.
This seems rather obvious, right? Unfortunately, it's not-- you'd be surprised to know how many people don't bother to fully read online profiles. But the first step in writing a successful first email is to really read the profile of the person you're interested in. Sure, just a glance at his or her photo might be enough to capture your attention. But if you don't actually take the time to read what they wrote, you won't be able to write something tailored to that person. Showing that you're paying attention, and that they have attracted you as a person, is a great way of catching somebody's interest.
Figure out what makes it special.
There's no way you can know somebody just by reading an internet dating profile. But chances are, there will always be something on a profile that stands out. Look for that one little tidbit that nobody else could have written-- that is unique to the person who wrote the profile. Then use this little piece of information in the email you send out. Here's an example:
Along with lots of long, rambling sentences about his or her perfect first date or how he or she loves to go hiking in the summer, you find one attention-catching sentence: "Clowns totally freak me out." This is just the kind of information that you'll want to use when you compose your email.
Can't find anything that's not about walks on the beach or his or her perfect partner? If nothing on their profile stands out or makes that person unique, well... you may want to reconsider contacting them in the first place.
Be specific and funny.
Now, you've sifted through his or her internet dating profile and come up with one or two things that are unique or interesting. Now it's time to use those things to compose an email. It doesn't have to be long, detailed, or in-depth... all it has to do is capture his or her attention. And the best way to do that is by being funny, of course. Use his or her "clowns really freak me out" in a silly story or as a joke. Talk about the time when you peed your pants when a circus clown honked a horn at you when you were 7. Make a silly reference to Stephen King's "It." Don't have anything in your own past you can use to relate? Make it up. The point is to make him or her laugh. You want to get their attention, not necessarily tell them who you are: it's your profile's job to do that.
