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Sometimes it will come as a shock when a boyfriend breaks up with you. You thought things were great... so how is it possible that he wasn't happy, too? Usually there are warning signs; little red flags to tell you that, while things feel just fabulous our your side of the relationship, interest is starting to wane on his.

Don't want to be caught unawares, and get dumped before you even knew something was wrong? Then keep an eye out for these five big warning signs that things aren't right... and that he may be thinking about jumping ship.

1. You hear lots of silence

In a healthy relationship, you and your partner should have plenty to talk about. Does that mean that you should be jabbering at each other all the time? Not necessarily. But if he's quieter than usual --say, he doesn't tell you about his day or talk about his life-- there may be a problem. If he doesn't have anything to talk to you about, chances are that he's not happy. Want to make sure there's nothing else going on in his life to have him pensive and quiet? Ask him.

2. You hear a whole lot of "nuthin'."

Your man is quieter than usual, and so you decide to ask him about it. His answer? A petulant shrug and a "nuthin' is wrong. I'm fine." The next day, he's moody and distant and doesn't seem to want to be around you. Again, you ask what the problem is, and again it's "nuthin'."

He doesn't want to talk to you, and that's the problem right there. Because it's perfectly possible that the problem is you, and he's just not ready to tell you yet. It may be time to put yourself on guard.

3. Affection has gone out the window

Most men are big on touching and giving physical affection. So if he's stopped all that, you may have a problem on the horizon. Say you go to hug him or kiss him, and he either flinches back or grows all stiff... or that you try to initiate sex and he's just "not in the mood"... well, it may be time to worry. While it's true that, like women, men sometimes withdraw physically when something else is not right in their lives, it doesn't happen often. If the problem is something outside you and your relationship, a man will usually seek the solace of physical contact. If he withdraws physically, it can be a big warning sign that he wants to withdraw from your relationship, too.

4. He doesn't have anything nice to say

If your guy is usually sweet, thoughtful, and full of compliments, you should start to worry if you see this behavior change too quickly. Think about the way you behave when you're no longer connected to a relationship. You stop seeing your guy through rose-tinted glasses-- you stop enjoying his jokes, admiring his pretty eyes, or leaving him sweet notes in his wallet after a night out. Even if you don't forget on purpose, you don't remember to be thoughtful because you're just not that into him.

Well, guys do the same thing. So if your normally sweet guy has done a 180 on you, it's time to start evaluating the status of your relationship.

5. He doesn't have time for you

You don't want a boyfriend who has to spend time with you twenty four hours a day. But neither do you want one who never makes time for you. If you notice that the amount of time that your guy wants to spend with you has really changed for the worse, it may be time to stop worrying. If he's stopped making time to call you, or be with you, or invite you out, things are definitely not right.

In short, if you find that the only people he has time for lately are his friends, he may be avoiding you intentionally. Ask yourself why that might be... and if any other signs point to him wanting to break up.

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