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Finding someone on Internet Dating is becoming the norm nowadays. It’s a fast paced arena where anyone can decide upon a whim if they are interested in you or not. Anything goes and one does have to be wary that you don’t get caught in a web of spammers or worse still any form of ‘player’ out there, male or female. In any event, regardless of where we are in the internet dating scene, here are some basic, simple hard and fast rules that should help you weave your way onto the dating scene.

First and foremost, put your best foot forward, or in this case, your best picture. Make sure it’s a good quality picture of you and a recent photo (no old photos taken years ago when you looked younger or 15 pounds lighter). There is nothing more disappointing than meeting someone who looks nothing like their photo. It’s dishonest and misleading – so just don’t do it.

Personal safety is a must. You just don’t know what wacko is out there, so just don’t give out personal information like where you work, your name, address, phone numbers, etc. If and when you meet someone online and whom you decide to meet up with personally, then you can decide what information you feel comfortable enough to give out.

Profiles: Take the time to fill out your profiles HONESTLY. Let people get a sense of who you really are. Don’t make up hobbies that you don’t have. Convey the things that mean a lot to you and that ultimately describe who you are. Think of it as your online dating resume.

As you surf the endless profiles and pictures, take the time to send out a personal message to the people you are interested in. There is nothing worse than receiving a generic email from someone who has sent out 100 or more messages to anything that moves. It makes the sender look desperate and makes the receiver feel very unnoticed. You want the message to convey something personal about the person you are sending it to. Take the time to read their profile, and mention or ask something that they have written in their profile.

Learn to accept rejection, the internet dating world is fast paced and sometimes a harsh world. If you have sent out a message but have received no response, chances are they are too busy to respond or have not yet checked their messages. However, they may also not be interested in you. I would love to say that etiquette requires you to respond to every email in a timely manner, but it just doesn’t work out that way. People will more than likely check out your profile before they respond to your email. If they are interested, they will respond, if they are not, chances are they will just delete your message. If you have received no response within 5-10 days of sending your message, simply learn to deal with it like an adult and move on.

The same goes for a nudge. Don’t keep nudging a person if they have not nudged you back!

If you are looking for SEX, SEX, SEX, and nothing else, please go to an adult site that advocates that. People on dating sites, generally want to ‘date’ someone before they get involved with sex.

PLEASE don’t say that you are looking for your soul mate. That’s all a bunch of bull anyway – you ARE your own soul mate. There is nothing worse than reading someone’s profile and then read all about how they are looking for ‘the one’. That is FAR too much expectation they are placing on themselves and on any future mate.

Learn to just relax, be yourself and enjoy the communication that can transpire from anywhere around the world with two people. You could meet your mate, a friend or just a pen pal, but ultimately, you are out here to have fun, to lend an ear and hopefully be listened to in return.

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