As girlfriends, wives, and partners, women like to think that we're as perfect as we can get. But of course we're not. Just like guys, we sometimes make big mistakes... and much more often, we blow small things way out of proportion. It's sort of our curse. A lot of women tend to think of men as if they were women; and so some of the things that men say or do freak us out. But oftentimes, there's no need to worry as much as we do. Much of the "upsetting" things that men say aren't really anything to get our panties in a wad over. These things are just manspeak... and they don't say anything negative about us or our relationship.
Tend to get worked up over what your man has to say? Read on for 5 manspeak phrases that you shouldn't let yourself worry about.
Number 1: "I'd rather hang with my friends tonight."
Your guy loves you. If he didn't, he wouldn't be with you. But just because he loves you doesn't mean he doesn't need time apart-- just like you do. When your boyfriend is with you, he tries to be on his best behavior. He doesn't say everything that comes to mind, he doesn't belch and down his beer like he would with his buddies, and he doesn't let himself act like an immature kid (hopefully). Which means he needs to be that person sometimes with his friends.
Sometimes, your guy is going to want to be on his own. That's a good thing, and it's not something you should let worry you. If you catch him chatting up large-breasted transsexuals on an internet dating site you should start to worry about your relationship. But if he would rather be with his buddies for poker or football night instead of with you sometimes, don't take it personally.
Number 2: "She's hot."
I think the earlier in their lives women get this fact straight, the happier they will be in their relationships: men will always, always, always look at women. And they'll probably imagine having sex with them, too. It's just a fact of life, and it's really not something to get upset about. Men aren't dogs. Just because they think about something doesn't mean they will do it. And just because men look at a woman doesn't mean they'd rather have her than you.
Sure, it's best if your guy tries to keep his admiration subtle. But when you catch him, try not to worry too much. A girl who's not clingy or possessive that way is a lot more attractive than a girl who thinks a roving eye is the world's worst sin. He's going to look whether you like it or not. So it's better for your mental health to get used to the idea.
Number 3: "Really, I'm fine."
When women have a hard time, it's their nature to talk it out. And while some men are like this, too, most are not. If your guy is having a hard time and doesn't want to talk about it, don't push it. It's not a reflection on you or on the intimacy of your relationship. It just means he needs a little talk-free time to relax and unwind. Give him that time, and don't take it personally when he needs it.
Number 4: "Sorry, babe, I'm too tired."
We women are funny creatures about sex. Most of us don't want it all the time, but that doesn't mean we don't want to be wanted all the time. If our partner's don't want to have sex with us every moment of the day, we take it as some sort of deep personal rejection. Which, of course, it's not. Just like women, men feel too worn out for sex sometimes, too. They just feel that way less often. When it happens, don't take it personally. You should only start to worry when he has an excuse every single night.
Number 5: Nothing at all.
Women care a lot about communication, which means that no matter what is being discussed, we tend to make an effort to be involved. To understand and make our own opinions heard. But most men aren't really like that. If your guy doesn't have anything in particular to say, he's probably not going to say it. This is true of one-on-one conversations, too. If your guy's keeping quiet, it doesn't necessarily mean something's wrong. It probably just means he's not in the mood to talk, or doesn't have anything to contribute to the conversation. Simple as that. Don't let it worry you, and don't give him a hard time about it unless it happens all the time.
