As a woman, I laugh at the number of times I've heard men wish aloud that my gender came with an operator's manual. What seems simple and straight-forward to me is like another language to a man. But this is simply what happens when two kinds of people look at the world in such different ways.
If you're not an expert on the female species (and most men are not, of course), it can seem impossible to know what a woman you're dating (or free internet dating) expects from you. You try your best to give her what you think she wants... but oftentimes it doesn't seem to be just the right thing. So how can you tell?
The truth is, what women expect from men is simpler than most men think. Sure, we're a bit more complex in this area than men tend to be... but that doesn't mean you can't learn what to do to make us happy. Men who are great with women aren't born that way, after all. They open their eyes, they open their ears, and they make the effort to learn what women want.
Love internet dating but having trouble figuring out what the woman you end up with might want? Read on for some of the major things most women expect from their romantic partners.
Friendship.
You know all those guy friends you hang out with and talk to? When you're in a relationship, your wife or girlfriend will want some of that, too. Now, this doesn't necessarily mean that she wants to have the exact same kind of friendship with you that you have with your basketball buddies. But it does mean that she wants you to talk to her, share her interests, and have fun together. Too many men look at friendship and romance as two separate things-- and think that women see it that way, too. But most women want to have both. Sometimes this might mean doing things with her that you don't want to. But usually it just means opening up about things that you normally save for other people.
Communication.
For women, this is a huge expectation-- and one that oftentimes isn't met. Why? Because the way men and women look at conversation is wildly different. And this difference can really get in the way of communicating. When men talk over a problem or an issue, they're looking for a solution. And while women look for solutions, too, they don't do it exclusively-- women often talk things out just to express themselves and share their problems with what they hope is a listening ear.
One thing that women want from their friends --and people in healthy romantic relationships really do need to be friends-- is somebody that will listen. If you can't listen to her without trying to solve her problems for her, there's a good chance it will create a lot of tension between you.
Sex.
When it comes to sex, women expect and hope that you will have (or develop over time) a full understanding of their needs. Sure, all women are different; but there are many ways in which we're the same. We require more foreplay than men, more affection. And during sex, most women require more stimulation as well. While many women are willing to come right out and tell you what they want you to do, others do not. And though it's understandable for you to become single-minded and focused on your own pleasure during sex, women expect you to be able to focus on hers, as well. As a gender, we require more sexually-- and we expect men to learn what we need to learn in order to make sex satisfying for us. It's just not as straight-forward and simple for women as it is for men.
Romance.
If you think that women care about getting flowers and candy all the time, you're wrong. What romance means to a woman is thought-- plain and simple. That you're thinking about her enough to make an extra effort to show her your feelings makes a woman feel wonderful. It makes her feel loved and cherished-- and that's exactly what romance is about. You don't need a lot of fancy words or a lot of money to be romantic. All you need to do is think about her and make a visible effort in some way. Seeing that you've worked to make her happy is what will make a woman feel truly romanced.
