He seemed so cool and interesting (not to mention cute!) when you met him on that internet dating website. His profile was great, his interests matched yours. After chatting you up for awhile, he gave you his number and you made a date at cool-sounding place you'd never been. But the moment he showed up, you knew you'd made a mistake. In fact, you'd made a mistake that would turn out to be the worst date of your life.
Go easy on yourself. Everybody's had a terrible date... or seven. The first thing to do is to relax about it, and go easy on yourself. If the way the date turned out was your fault (say, you offended your date with a raunchy story or embarrassed yourself with a physical, um, mishap), don't blame yourself too much. Nobody bats 1000, and you're bound to have an off-night every once in awhile. And if the date was bad because, well, your date him or herself was bad, don't beat yourself up about making a bad choice. You've got to take chances if you want to find somebody special, and you can't expect all of those chances to pan out.
Have a laugh. Not everything about relationships and dating is serious business. If you've had a terrible date, call a friend up and... laugh about it! If you accidentally let a mouthful of half-chewed broccoli spray across the table into your date's face, or were tortured by two hours' conversation about Dungeons and Dragons, focus on the funny side instead of the torturous one. It'll keep you sane.
Reassess your date. After having a terrible date, you may decide to write your date off, or figure that he or she has written you off. That's not always so. If your date offended you or bored you or said something silly to turn you off, take a moment to reassess. You might find a moment or two in all that discussion about Dungeons and Dragons that makes a second date worth pursuing. Sometimes first impressions don't mean a thing.
Take a break. While you don't want to stop dating after you've had a tough time of it, you might want to take a short break from dating; just a weekend or so. Go out with friends, laugh about your romantic troubles, and release some of the pressure built up by the roller coaster of dating. Then you'll be relaxed and ready for more.
Learn a lesson from it. In every bad date, there is a lesson to be learned. If you're the one who ruined things, look over what you did and why. If you made a bad joke or inappropriate comment think about times in the past when doing the same thing may have affected the outcome of other dates. If your date, on the other hand, is the one that made your evening a torture, look closely at any warning signs you may have missed that indicted there might be a problem with the man or woman you went out with.
And hey, if there's nothing else to be gleaned from a bad date, you at least got to practice a couple of "bad date exit strategies!"
Nakedfantasy
34 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on January 2, 2009, 3:22 pm
Interesting sound advice put in a good natured way.Dating isn't easy and the author gives a few tips which I found helpful.
