For most women, being seen as attractive is a big part of our self esteem. How the opposite sex sees us affects how we see ourselves. And while it's important to be secure in who you are no matter how men see you --especially when you're internet dating, when "sexy photos" seem to get all the views-- it's perfectly normal to want to seem, well, sexy.
You know you're a sexual being. You have sexual instincts that run deep, and you know how to feel sexy when you're with somebody special. But many women never really learned how to express their sexuality --how to be sexy-- in day to day life. Instead, we learn that we should try to be demure if we can, or at least a little conservative. Many women worry that the unfair label of "slut" will, once applied, never come off. So they hope that their innate sexuality will come through even if they themselves don't bring anything but the most subtle attention to it.
But it doesn't always work that way. You might meet a man who sees all of your good traits: your intelligence, your sense of humor, your great smile. But he may not necessarily see your sexual ones. Want be seen as a sexual --and sexy-- being in the eyes of the men you talk to? All you need are a few simple tips.
Touch him
I believe that touch is the great hidden secret of sexy women everywhere. A woman can look plain and perfectly ordinary... but by touching, she develops a connection with a man that is impossible to deny. Perhaps it's because we touch strangers so little, or personal space is so sacred, but touch is at a high premium. Using it is a great way to feel and be seen as instantly sexy. Just a touch of the hand in the right place at the right moment can be enough to be seen in a different light. Touch is a great tool that should never be left to the wayside.
Show off your best features
Most of us weren't blessed with 100% extraordinary everything. But all of us were blessed with an extraordinary something. Take the time to think about your body, your face, your features, and decide what is most sexy about you. It may be something as straight-forward as full breasts or a round bottom. Or it may be your glowing skin or bright eyes. Whatever your "special feature" is, flaunt it to the best of your ability. And when you're feeling down or unsexy, think about that feature-- it'll always give you a sexy little boost.
Flirt overtly
I think most women are taught that certain kinds of flirting are only allowed to "certain" kinds of girls. But that's simply unfair. Most women, in the desire to be demure (or whatever it is a woman should supposedly be), don't tend to bring up sex or sexuality with a man they just met. But making a sexy comment in the process of flirting doesn't obligate you to do anything-- and it makes you seem pretty darned sexy in his eyes.
Talk in the first person
In the process of talking to a new man, the subject of sex will often come up. When this happens, most women automatically segue the conversation into an abstract one about sexuality in general. But if you talk about sex in the first person ("In bed, I like...," or "when I'm having sex..."), it automatically makes a man see you as a sexual person-- because he's probably imagining having sex with you at that very moment.
Say it without speaking
Some women are shy. Others simply aren't good at expressing themselves in a sexual way. But what you can't say with words you can often say with your eyes. Want to instantly light a spark under him? Make prolonged eye contact with him, and think about sexual things while you do it. It takes a little courage, but the effects are instantaneous.
