Is there actually... A Better Way? Could there possibly be an easier way to tell someone they don't ring your bell?
Even though statistics show that 48% of online daters break up using email, saying goodbye, whether it's the end of a long term relationship or a polite exit after the first few meetings, is best dealt with in a sincere, empathetic and to the point manner. It is a difficult task even if your heart wasn't in it.
A face-to face meeting can help clear up any misunderstandings on the spot as opposed to writing an email which the other person is left to interpret. You know how that can go.
Be sensitive with your timing. Is the receiver of the breakup news celebrating something or dealing with a crisis of some sort? Are you choosing a neutral private setting that will allow for more of a feeling of comfort ,as well as provide a simple way of leaving if either party so desires?
The first few sentences are the tough ones to get out. Go over them in your mind before you deliver the blow. "There is no easy way to tell you this" or "As much as I have enjoyed our time together I need to be true to myself and to you about how I am feeling." Expressing some positive feedback will definitely help to ease the hurt and enable the person to really hear that this relationship isn't right for you.
Allow the rest to flow naturally while keeping in mind that an abrupt lead in and sharp tone could breed bad feelings and put the other person on the defensive. Speak calmly, keep it simple and be prepared as you might be on the receiving end of their reaction. This is the uncomfortable part and best handled by listening and not responding. The worst thing is to get drawn into a war of words. I have encountered times when the other is pleading for you to give them another chance. This is the time to say "It sounds like you are hurt and/or disappointed and I am sorry for that. I wish it would have worked out too."
Afterwards you can take a deep breathe and feel the relief. It's done. You can be proud of yourself that you accomplished it with sincerity and at the same time you stayed true to yourself.
