I am not interested in promiscuous relationships, and would never feel so inclined to go out and try to find one willingly, however, I am not one to judge another for their likes and tastes. I mean hey, if that’s what works for you, then knock yourself out.
The following is an example of someone’s take on what it’s like to engage in a sexual relationship simply and solely for the sake of sex. I have it on good authority as I know this person very well, and I am always AMAZED that this is what she likes and wants and suits her just fine thank you very much. Here’s her perspective:
Interestingly enough after an almost two year relationship that totally changed my point of view on men and commitment, I now find myself coveting what’s termed as a booty call.
For many it’s considered a safer form of a one-night stand. It goes something like this.....you’re home alone, drinking, and really horny. You text your booty call buddy, he texts back and within a couple of hours you’re in the sack. It’s actually pretty simple. I tend to go by a set of 10 or so rules that make it even easier.
10. We’re NOT friends. Period.
9. The question of “Was it good for you?” doesn’t apply. I couldn’t care less. The key point here is was it good for me and that’s all that matters.
8. No need to spend the night. Get in – get out. (No pun intended)
7. No hooking up for drinks or dinner in between the booty calls. I can socialize with my girlfriends.
6. No need to call....unless we can’t hook up and it’s for phone sex.
5. No more than 1 booty call a month. Add an extra one here and there if you truly need an SOS call.
4. Never....never....ever.....say I love you!
3. No sleeping over – EVER.
2. No strings attached whatsoever. If I want a booty call with another guy, then that’s my business not his.
1. Only mind-blowing sex to be expected by both participants – well at least for me anyway.
All joking aside, I actually have a pretty good booty call ‘mate’. He’s this ripped 28 year old construction worker who always meets my needs beautifully. Yes, he has a girlfriend and apparently he’s not satisfied in the bedroom domain. Mutually it’s been almost a silent agreement between us. We both know this is a very casual relationship that is sexually driven. We have even joked at times about who exactly is the booty and who is the recipient. We’ve both had our SOS text moments.
We don’t call each other and have never been out for dinner or a movie, etc. So when we receive one of those promiscuous texts, we simply try to accommodate one another. There have been times when it takes a few days or even weeks before we can find a mutual time that’s good, but when it does happen it’s always mind blowing and a great fix for both of us.
If I were to characterize a booty call, I’d call it as an easy fix with no strings attached. We all have issues that we’re dealing with or have dealt with in our lives. Some of us are not ready to commit to someone or feel a little hesitant about trusting someone on a full scale level. Relationships are one of the most difficult and complex things in life. So enjoying the booty call version right now is great and not complex for me at all.
