Looking to meet women, and still searching for "great pick up lines" on the internet? Well, you're searching for the wrong thing. Any pick up lines you find --online or elsewhere-- are probably ones that women have heard a thousand times before. In bars, in the grocery store, on free internet dating sites, and everywhere else they go. Pick up lines are tired, they're silly, and worst of all, they don't work.
Which is why successful men tend to focus on the right approach instead of the right "what's your sign?" line. When you approach a woman the right way, conversation will feel like, well, conversation. And not like you're trying to pick her up.
Crafting Your Approach
Sometimes using the right approach with a woman means creating that approach-- that is, creating a situation in which it would seem natural for you to talk to her. Be creative with it. Sure, you can use this method in a bar or a club (or anywhere else you'd normally go to meet women), but it works better in places that aren't common choices for a pick up. Try creating approaches at the grocery store, the bank, a sporting event, the dry cleaner's, you name it.
Here's an example. Say you see a woman at the bank that catches your eye. She's not wearing a wedding ring, and she looks like she just walked out of a fashion magazine. You could approach her with a cheesy line ("hey, you come here often?"). Or you could create a scenario in which she'll feel comfortable talking to you. You'll get a chance to talk to her like a real person, and if you do it right she may not even realize you're trying to pick her up. When you craft your approach, it's easier to get in under her radar, piquing her interest while her defenses are down-- because she won't automatically believe that you're trying to pick her up.
So when you see the girl at the bank, look around you for excuses to talk to her. Ask her to look at the handwriting on your deposit slip to see if it's illegible. Ask her if she has an extra withdrawal slip with her. Look around... there may be more potential approaches available to you than you'd think.
When she's given you the help you needed, you can transition into a real conversation. This is the tricky part-- and the part where she'll be most likely to realize you're interested in her for more than her bank slips. So use it as your chance to charm her. Say something funny to make her laugh-- it's the best way to get her to let down her guard again.
While you talk to her, keep an eye open for sign that she's interested in you. What may seem like simple helpfulness on the outside could be something more. Watch for her to touch her hair or fix her clothes, move closer to you, make a lot of eye contact, or touch you. All of these things are potential signs that she may be up for seeing you again.
Making Your Approach Work
Of course, coming up with a creative way to approach a woman doesn't necessarily mean that your approach will be a success. First, you have to be able to do it right. Be sure to avoid anything that will seem cheesy or like you're trying to pick her up-- meaning you should make asking her out or requesting her phone number the last part of the conversation. Also, even if your mind (and perhaps your pulse) is racing, be sure to actually listen to what she has to say. A huge part of chatting a woman up successfully is connecting to her on a real and personal level. If you're only thinking about how your breath smells, you're not going to be able to do that.
Also, be sure to keep the conversation short, and be the first one to end it if possible. It may be tempting to keep her talking. The longer you have, the more chances you have to make an impression, right? But first meetings are awkward, so don't draw it out. Ending on a high note (instead of an awkward one) will make the chances of her saying "yes" when you ask her out that much higher.
