Let us all collectively give thanks to the bygone days of women feeling obligated to stay in unsatisfactory marriages. The thanks being that they are over. And that they taught all of us a valuable lesson in not settling, whether we experienced those days first hand or we came of age in a post-cult of domesticity era.
One interesting side affect of this larger-than-ever fleet of liberated ladies is the increased number of women of a certain age being single and active in the dating world. And maybe it’s because men die younger or something, but a common complaint is that there aren’t enough silver foxes roaming around for these women. So what to do? For a lot of women, the answer is to get all Mrs. Robinson on the situation: go for the younger men.
But what are the ups and downs, ins and outs of this type of dating duo? Let’s explore:
The upside of gettin’ down to Junior Town
Do I even need to go over this? Young guys are hot. While I’m of the opinion that most men get hotter once they’ve put on a few years, there’s no denying that they have that unbridled, fresh masculinity that hasn’t been chipped away at by divorces and parents in nursing homes yet.
They’re vital, energetic and know all the best places to hang out in parts of town that in your day (it’s still your day, who are we kidding?) were to run-down to visit. Even some of their supposed drawbacks can actually be benefits; for example, older men may claim a bit of clout by knowing the owner of a new restaurant or club, but it’s that super sexy piece of 27-year-old arm candy by your side who will know the door guy and bartender…and those are way more important people to know if you actually want to have a good time.
When it comes to rolling in the hay, well, for starters, fun young things are more likely to be down for literally rolling in the hay. What they possibly lack in experience and finesse, these guys will more than make up for in malleability and willingness to learn. It might take a little extra hand holding but playing the sexy teacher is never that bad and at the end of the day, you won’t just a good lover by anyone’s definition, you’ll have one who is trained according to your specifications.
Older men already have their tricks down…it’s like a routine, a dance they know by heart (I know, not always, but sometimes it is like that). There’s a great deal of raw, honest sexual energy in a younger man that can’t be duplicated or faked after a certain amount of time. Being exposed, in the short term or regularly, to that will take years off you of as well. It can be literally good for your health to shop in the juniors’ department.
…and the downside
Here are the things we don’t want to tell ourselves when we meet someone whose generation has a whole different letter than ours:
The two of you are likely in very different places in your life. When you’re 25, it’s sometimes acceptable to your schedule (and ability to run on no sleep) to stay out until 5am on a Tuesday. When you’re 45, not so much. While you’re thinking about kids (either the ones you have or the ones you want in the near future), he’s possibly still in the mindset of pregnancy being a scary, “bummer, dude” kind of thing, as opposed to happy news.
While dating a younger man can do wonders for your confidence in your fierce sexual potency, you better make sure you already come equipped with a good amount of your own. Unless your man has a history of dating only women in your age bracket, you’re looking at potentially drowning in a self-doubting sea of girls with half your wrinkles and twice your skin tone. Just prepare yourself. Young guys sometimes date young women. And it takes a pretty fabulous kind of confidence to follow that.
They can be annoying, have completely dissimilar interests, still be working through some post-adolescent irresponsibility and in general, be on a different level than you. Sex appeal and trophy status are certainly appealing relationship merit badges but nothing can replace true compatibility.
