The tulips and daffodils are peeking out through the snow and the trees are budding. Spring is finally here, and not a moment too soon! Spring and summer are traditionally THE time for weddings, so to make sure that you get the most out of attending the nuptials of friends and loved ones, here are Datepad's Top Ten Do's and Don'ts for Wedding Guests!
#10 – Invitation
Do reply immediately to the invitation
RSVP is French for réspondez s’il vous plait, please respond. Normally, invitations will include a reply card with a stamped, self addressed envelope, although it is becoming more common for the bride and groom to accept telephoned and emailed responses.
#9 – Children & Guests
Don't angle for an invitation for a guest or for children
The invitation is addressed to those invited. If the invitation reads "Ms Jane Doe and guest", then you may bring a guest. If the invitation includes your children, they will either receive their own invitation, or their names will be listed with yours. Please respect the bride and groom's decision in this matter. They've likely thought long and hard about their guest list and if they had wanted your opinion, they would have asked for it.
#8 – Gifts
Don't bring a gift to the reception.
I know, it's a hassle having to make other arrangements, but remember, this day is NOT about you, it's about the bride and groom. They have better things to think about and do today than guarding the loot, namely 101 things to "do" on the honeymoon.
#7 – Booze
Don't overdo it on the alcohol
An open bar is not an invitation to a shots contest, nor does anyone else care to see who you can drink under the table.
#6 – What to Wear
Do dress appropriately for the wedding and the reception
Unless you know in advance that this is a super casual affair, leave the cutoff jeans and tank tops in your closet. If you're unsure about the dress code, call the bride or groom a few weeks before the wedding to clear up any uncertainties.
#5 – Congratulations
Do congratulate the groom and wish the bride happiness
Not the other way around - it's considered bad manners to congratulate the bride on having snared a husband.
#4 – Budget
Don't blow the budget on a wedding present.
Spend what you can afford.
#3 – Time
Do arrive on time
Nothing says "I really don't give a shit about either of you" like arriving late.
#2 – Cell Phone
Do turn off your cell phone
Contrary to self held opinion, you are not indispensable. However, if you find that you cannot do without your cell phone for several hours, do everyone a favour and decline the invitation. You are clearly far too important to spend uninterrupted time with friends!
#1 – Have Fun
Do enjoy the party
Smile, mingle, and introduce yourself to at least two people you’ve never met before. Whether you're attending solo or as half of a couple, new friends and acquaintances add spice to life!
Have some other suggestions that you think should be on this list? Let us know - leave a comment below!
Katarina_HD
42 / Female
Comments: 30
Posted on April 10, 2008, 11:23 am
I'd have to disagree with point #8 about gifts. Depending on the culture and custom of the couple, in some cultures, it is expected that you bring the gift to the reception, otherwise, you may be considered a free loader. Either a gift or a gift of money is expected, so be sure to ask as to what is preferred before arriving to the reception.
