Things I Miss About Being Single

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By Jessi_bee ◊ Feb 9, 2010 ◊ Published in Dating ◊ 2 Comments

I’m sure you’ve read…oh, I don’t know, a billion…articles about why it’s soooo super fun and great to be single. Well, obviously, it can be super fun and great. But you guys are doing the whole internet dating thing. Odds are, you are single and don’t particularly want to be. Those lists are usually written from the perspective of single people trying to pump up each other’s will to live (and date) by spouting off the same “you’re still awesome”-isms that we’ve all heard over and over.

This is not one of those lists.

I am in a relationship. And I’m pretty dang happy about this particular one. But the thing is, I totally dig the "yes, but" as a rule, I’m never happy for long within the construct of a relationship. I get bored. I get restless. I get protective of my space. All kinds of things.

And as I march up towards a year with this wonderful man in my life, I’ve been thinking about the things that I miss about being my own one-and-only. So I’m not going to tell you that being single is so far superior to being coupled up. Because love is awesome There’s no getting around that. I hope that you brave, online dating souls find someone to love because I’m pretty darn sure there’s nothing better than that in the whole world. But in the meantime, please, for the sake of all of us who no longer can, please enjoy these things that you just might miss when you meet Miss or Mister Right:

1.Being alone at family functions

I know that’s supposed to be one of the perks in having a boy/girlfriend but you never really realize how fun it is to be the wild, sassy, single one at the family reunion and play the whole “I-can’t-be-tied-down-and-aren’t-all-you-old-hags-so-jealous?” thing until you can’t do it anymore. Then it’s just “when are you getting marrrried?” and the welcome-to-the-club looks from the aforementioned old hags.

2.Masturbating

Not that I don’t still do it or anything, but hey, it happens less when you’re sharing a bed with someone else most of the time.

3.Not caring about how I look

I’m absolutely not saying you can just let yourself go when you don’t have a man around to see you (I truly believe that how you look has a huge impact on how you feel) but come on, there are some mornings when I just want to be a slug. I want to wear sweatpants until 1PM and eat cookies in bed and watch online episodes of old girly TV shows. God, that sounds good right now.

4.Impromptu anything

I have this single habit of picking up and running away somewhere at the drop of a hat. Maybe to the beach, maybe to this mountain town I like a lot, maybe across the country. And I like being able to disappear for a day or two and then randomly call up my mom or best friend to alert them as to my whereabouts. They’re pretty used to this.

But when you’re in a serious relationship where your presence is more integral to someone else’s day-to-day life and emotional happiness, it definitely makes you less likely to jump up and run off. Even if the change is as subtle as telling your sweetie in advance (if you don’t decide to take him/her with you, which changes the whole feeling of the trip), it takes away a bit of the magical freedom you enjoy as a single person.

5.Sleeping alone

Oh man, cuddling is awesome. It’s just about the greatest thing ever invented by two cold people. But I have to say that sharing a bed on a regular basis is not all fairy tales and rainbow dreams. Sometimes, someone will hog a blanket. Or steal a pillow. Or elbow you in the boob. It can suck. Occasionally, we relationship-bound people just want a nice, big expanse of bed to stretch out in alone. Enjoy it while you’ve got it, Lady or Sir Single.

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