It seems that most of us have some form of a sexual fetish, whether we willingly admit to it or not. Some are more hard-core than others but we have them just the same.
A fetish can be described as something that you consistently do (to the point of exclusivity) or enjoy watching in order to become sexually aroused and/or reach sexual orgasm with a partner or alone.
The following list of fetishes are deemed to be the most popular and have been compiled from various blogs, statistical research gathered from various polls, surveys and published reports from professional clinical experience.
I realize reliable statistics are almost impossible to get but from what our experts most often hear about in their practices, this is the order I would put them in.
#10 – Sadism
Sadism is the derivation of pleasure as a result of inflicting pain, or watching pain inflicted, on others.
The practice gained its name from the Marquis de Sade, a French aristocrat who wrote numerous violent pornographic books detailing sexual cruelty while imprisoned. He spent close to half his life in prison and an insane asylum. The Marquis obviously became notorious by taking things to the extreme but the light version of sadism could be as simple as enjoying the look on your partner’s face when you smack them on the derriere!
#9 – Body Piercing & Tattoos
No body part is excluded from this fetish. Body piercing and tattoos adorn everywhere from nipples to nose, ears, sexual organs, feet and hands and both date back many thousands of years. Over 30% of the American population now has at least one tattoo. This is no doubt due in part to the popularity of recent tattoo focused reality T.V. shows. Piercing percentages are much higher especially if you count the ears. Genital piercing is nothing new; the Prince Albert piercing is named after the husband of Queen Victoria of England. He had this piercing done around 1825. At the time ultra tight men’s trousers were in vogue. Because the pants were so tight, the penis needed to be held to one side so as not to create an, “unsightly bulge”. To accomplish this, men commonly would had their penis pierced to allow it to be held by a hook (or dressing ring) on the inside of the trousers or attached to a band around the leg. Tailors to this day will ask if you dress to the left or right. The Prince Albert Piercing is still the most popular male genital piercing. It is said to provide greater stimulation to both partners during sex as are other genital piercings. The tongue is one of the most popular piercing locations, alleged to be fantastic for oral sex (for both sexes). Janet Jackson, Mel B from the Spice Girls and Malcolm Jamahl Warner from the Cosby show are just a few celebs who sport pierced tongues. Nothing like getting to the point of things!
#8 – Leather & Vinyl
This practice includes dressing up and having sex in anything made of leather, rubber, latex or vinyl. The color of choice is usually black and it has to be tight fitting, very close to the skin. No outfit is complete without accessories, which may include leather dog collars, cuffs, whips and floggers, canes and paddles and blindfolds. Leather & rubber theme nights and specialty clubs can now be found in all major cities in North America.
#7 - Feet & Shoes
The look, feel and smell of feet and shoes is very erotic for some. The world over women pamper their feet and dress them up in sexy foot wear to tantilize. Foot worship has a long history. Eastern cultures took this to extremes, bound feet were seen as the ultimate in beauty and desirability for women. Some foot fans like to be walked on by high-heeled shoes, be masturbated by their partners feet or have sex with their lovers while wearing nothing but the sexy shoes of their choice.
#6 - WAM or Wet & Messy.
The WAM fetish includes arousal by food play, gunge (any thick and gooey liquid), pies, mud, etc. but NOT bodily fluids (we will get to those in a minute). It is said that one in every 261 people has some kind of erotic fantasy which involves getting wet or messy. The movie 9 1/2 Weeks included a very steamy WAM kitchen scene. The following was submitted by a 35 year-old male from USA:
"Pie-play, nude. I.e., setting up a room full of cream pies with a lover (female), getting naked, and doing some mild sub/dom role-play until we're both covered in pies."
Talk about a sugar rush, pass the whipped cream!
#5 – Golden Showers
Urinating on your partner either male or female and in some cases drinking the urine (uorophagia). Squirting or female ejaculation is often included in this category. You can also find websites with ads that offer used panties for sale:
“I have a wide range of used panties for sale all for your pleasure. All worn personally by me for as long as you want. Safe secure and discreet service. Package will arrive first class in a plain package direct to your door. Other items and pics available on request just e mail me…”
Oh, that reminds me, I’m out of laundry detergent.
#4 – Breasts
The bigger the better. This fetish focuses primarily on women who have unbelievably, sometimes grotesquely large proportions, either fake or real. Enthusiasts often find it arousing to be smothered by said mammaries!
#3 - All Things Anal
Here we find male and female enthusiasts on both giving and receiving ends. Many find the role reversal stimulating on physical and cerebral levels. This is something that some heterosexual guys really have a hard time admitting to. They fear that declaring they enjoy receiving anal pleasure may somehow incriminate their masculinity. To this we say, “The anal area has more nerve endings than the penis or the vagina. If you’ve got one, why not love it like it is!” The fact is, that the prostate gland is the male g-spot which when stimulated properly can enhance male orgasm tremendously. When an orgasm is reached with anal/prostate stimulation it feels deeper, stronger and lasts longer. This type of orgasm is commonly referred to as a full body orgasm. They say you have to experience it to believe it! For the girls, there is a very sensitive nerve that runs through the tissue between the rectum and the vaginal that can be very enjoyable when stimulated anally. Placing some form of (anal appropriate) vibrator in the anal area during vaginal intercourse is highly recommended. So, pass the lube and go gently into a new universe of pleasure!
#2 - Domination & Submission
This is not necessarily the hard core stuff (although it can be) but more often simply enjoying the subtle shift in the power dynamic. Usually the more powerful or responsible a person is in their daily lives, the more they crave submitting on a personal/private level. That could be as simple as, "You make the decisions tonight honey, I'm exhausted." "Tell me exactly what to do so I don't have to think." OR “Order me to do anything you want, I want to be your slave tonight”. And doing anything can range from submitting to a ‘spanking’ to cleaning the toilet naked with a toothbrush or even one’s tongue.
#1 - Voyeurism and exhibitionism
Hands down the most popular fetish! The entire porn industry is eternally grateful to all of you voyeurs! Think of how many billions the porn industry rakes in annually. It’s all about watching and/or being seen. Women are becoming increasing consumers due to the discretion of online ordering, porn becoming more mainstream, and the increase in topics and forms being produced that cater to their desires. We have not heard any men complaining yet! You go GFs!
Centaur
54 / Male
Comments: 5
Posted on September 15, 2008, 6:15 pm
Nothing earth shattering there. Pretty predictable! What happened to "cross-dressing" , and role playing, (or is that incorporated within S & M? Personally, I have a fetish for "small" breasted women. Breasts consist of primarily "fat" tissue. And... In my opinion, the less fat on a lady... the BETTER! However, just to be clear, I'm NOT into anorexic ladies! Athletic and trim in middle age is sooo sexy!
Posted on September 15, 2008, 7:30 pm
Hi Centaur, The list is only the top 10, from either clinical experience or what people voted for on various blogs and surveys, it is in no way exhaustive. I'm sure there are many, many more out there and I can appreciate your comments.
Posted on September 15, 2008, 11:57 pm
HEY! Where is the Serane Cleavland Steamer? All the heat, none of the mess.
Sukie51
54 / Female
Comments: 1
Posted on September 16, 2008, 9:30 pm
You know, to each it's own! But sometimes a person can take things way over the limit, to where certain fetishes can effect their mental state of mind. Some people just don't take their life seriously enough to see if that certain fetish might hurt someone in their life. That is what I call selfishness!
