Human beings are creatures of habit. Not all habits are bad; we strongly applaud the habit of good personal hygiene! In the bedroom though, habitual behaviour can quickly lead to boredom. Most of us desire a balance of predictability and adventure to feel satisfied. While focusing on target areas such as the genitals during sexual encounters definitely saves time, it may not get you the “World’s Greatest Lover” award. From head to toe, front and back we have erogenous zones that are crying out for attention. These areas have some commonalities to keep in mind. Most of them have more nerve endings than other parts of the body and a good portion of them are on the margins (sides) of the body. A fun and interesting way to mix up your bedroom routine is to play a game called, “Guess my three most erogenous body parts, other than my genitals!” Of course there is much hands on testing and exploring involved in the guessing process! Make sure to take turns. Here is a little list to get you started:
10. Inner thigh
Lots of lovely nerve endings just waiting to be aroused. Long, slow, lingering strokes leading dangerously close to forbidden lands build anticipation! Licking or blowing on the inner thighs is also a sure turn on.
9. Buttocks
Most of us want to be appreciated from both sides! Try progressing from the inner thigh to your partner’s butt. Some light squeezing, kissing and licking are sure to satisfy. Remember though, you’re not kneading a ball of dough, so easy does it! These are the largest muscles in the body and can use a little TLC, the term “tight ass” did not come from nowhere!
8. Neck
Send shivers down your lover’s spine by kissing, licking and nibbling your partner’s neck, especially the area close to the ears. Some like a good firm bite to express the depth of your passion, nothing too drastic above the collar though, no one wants a bruised neck and hickeys are definitely out! Sucking, not biting produces most of the marks, so be aware.
7. Ears (especially the lobes)
This is one area where gentle is definitely more. Do it wrong and you partner will feel like they’re listening to someone chewing dinner with their mouth open, slurp slurp. Do it right, by softly nibbling and stroking around the outside of the ear, and lightly sucking on the earlobe, and you’ll be hitting a home run in no time. If you like to be on the receiving end, clean is good, use a QTip regularly!
6. Fingers
Ladies, try sucking on your man’s fingers, one at a time, and vary the intensity. The only thing he’ll be able to think about is how it’ll feel when you go a little lower!
5. Head/Hair
Lovingly running your fingers through your partner’s hair can be very intimate and pleasurable.
4. Lips
Lightly bite and suck your partner’s lips. Take your time and finish with a knee weakening kiss. Remember good kissing is all about communication. Like a conversation, pay attention to your lover’s responses and react accordingly. No one likes someone who doesn’t listen and goes on endlessly as if you were not there.
3. Nipples
This one is really not very complicated. The darker area around the nipple is called the areola. Stimulating the areola will cause the nipples to become erect, making them more sensitive to touching, licking and nibbling. Some women and men are fortunate enough to be able to climax by nipple stimulation alone! Those of you old enough to remember radio dials, stop it, just stop it.
2. Feet
In ancient times washing and massaging the feet with oil was a ritual to nurture and welcome guests into your home. Even now nothing sets the tone for a relaxing, sensual evening like massaging your partner’s feet. A slow, languorous rub of the soles and toes, followed by some gentle nibbling and sucking is sure to lead to better things.
1. Brain
It’s all in the mind. Perception is a very powerful stimulant! Try whispering or murmuring into your partner’s ear about what you’d like to do or are about to do to them and watch for fireworks!
So, next time you are ready to, “go for the gold” and zero in on your favorite bits, remember this list to take yourself from boring to brilliant!
Centaur
54 / Male
Comments: 5
Posted on September 24, 2008, 7:07 pm
You missed the ever popular "G" Spot... More research and explicit directions hopefully to follow in subsequent article(s). Additionally, the obvious...Clitoris was neglected, as was the prostate... Hmmm? Regardless, your articles are Appreciated ... Always!
Posted on September 25, 2008, 2:16 am
Hi Centaur, it's always good to hear from you and I'm glad you liked the article! I'll add your suggestion for a "G" spot article to my list of topics. You're right though, this will require extensive research. The genitals were deliberately omitted from this article as I wanted to focus on other areas of our bodies and encourage our readers to explore.
