After any serious altercation in a relationship, there’s obligatory talking. Oh, my dear Eartha Kitt, there’s always so much talking. You have to talk about what he did wrong, what she did wrong, what other people did wrong, who was right about what and why, and then there are the lists of demands going forward. There are a lot of words being flung about in the process of healing a damaged love.
Yoko Ono was a significant force in the life of the illustrious John Lennon. They fell in love (no internet dating here!), and together, inspired each other to great acts of art, music, and social change. They were self-proclaimed love revolutionaries. They grew their hair long and stayed in bed. They had a son who now looks like them both so much that it creeps me out.
I have three sisters. Yes, three. Raised by a single mother, no less, so needless to say, there were a whole lot of hormones flying around that house. We had all your typical sister stuff: stealing each other’s clothes, copying each other’s hair, hating on each other’s clothes and hair and boyfriends and friends…you name it, we did it. And then, naturally, there was the ever-present desire to one-up each other. Textbook sibling rivalry.
Whether you're internet dating or dating traditionally, no one likes breaking up. I sure don’t like breaking up. Sometimes it feels refreshing and liberating to actually be broken up but no matter how you slice it, the act itself is never a pleasant experience. But we’re cunning dating navigators and as such, know when the magic is gone (or was never there at all) and it’s time to cut and run. The real question is, do we know how?
the reality is that housing prices are high, the economy is making profitable work harder to come by and in general, times are tough all around. Suddenly, affording our own place to walk around naked and have guilty-free loud romps with cute dates that you met on an internet dating site is becoming more difficult to do.
In my social circle, we frequently refer to the “salad days”. This is our phrase for the glorious days in the beginning part of a relationship when everything is still sunshine, butterflies and blind optimism. Your new internet dating partner can do no wrong; every word they utter is poetry, every kiss makes you a puddle of girly feelings, and even the mediocre songs they play you on their acoustic guitar make you positive you’re dating the second coming of Bob Dylan.
There's a difference between feeling bad when somebody doesn't reply to your email on an internet dating site and getting upset whenever somebody in your life doesn't tip-toe around your feelings. While the former is a perfectly natural reaction to interacting with people, the latter is evidence of a big problem. One that will have a tendency to get in the way of your having a successful relationship.
Lying isn't a good thing. But there is a lot of difference between the small fib on your internet dating profile that you weigh 15 pounds less than you do, and the large one claiming that you're unmarried and looking for a relationship when you're not. Some lies are just worse than others.