You come across all kinds of people at internet dating sites. And while most of them are looking for more or less the same thing --somebody to spend their lives with, or at least to have a good time with-- not all of them are really ready for a relationship. So while the types of women you'll read about below are generally perfectly nice people, they're not necessarily the type of people you want to contact on an online dating site. Because they're just not in a position to establish a healthy relationship.
The Very Insecure Woman.
Every woman --and every man, too-- has her little insecurities. Maybe she has body image issues or doesn't think she's as smart as she really is. Maybe she worries that the men in her life don't really care for her. But when those insecurities start to take over a woman's whole personality, they stop becoming part of her nature and start becoming all she has. While it's normal to want to do something to help a woman with little or no self-esteem, it's important to remember that that's not your job or your responsibility. It's best to move on to somebody with a healthier point of view, and leave Miss Insecure for the next guy. Or, preferably, to a psychiatrist.
The Ultra Romantic.
All women want to be romanced to one extent or another. But women who are ultra-romantic on their internet dating profiles are generally to be avoided. Why? Because if she's looking for Prince Charming or for the perfect guy to be her "other half," it generally means that her expectations for romance and relationships are not realistic. Think of it this way. You can't always be the perfect Prince Charming who will sweep her off her feet and make every kiss feel like the first one. So while things might look great at the beginning of the relationship, chances are she will eventually become disenchanted and unhappy. After all, nobody's perfect; if she's looking for perfection she's not going to find it. Even in you.
The Scammer.
You see her photo on an internet dating site, and you're blown away by how gorgeous she is. You send a nice message to her, believing deep down that you'll never get an answer. But lo and behold, she replies to you right away. You get to chatting, and she responds to you in the most charming way. She laughs at all your jokes. She compliments you. And before you could ever expect it to happen, she tells you she's crazy about you. Woo hoo!
Sorry, buddy, but you're probably being scammed. Soon, she'll probably start telling you about how difficult it is for her to come and see you, or tell you she has an abusive husband and needs money to get away from him. When it comes to internet dating, you've got to follow your instincts: if you're wondering how it's possible you nabbed this great girl, it may be that she's trying to nab you. And not in a good way.
The Bitter One.
Every woman has had her romantic disappointments in life. But not every woman becomes a bitter man-hater because of them. If somebody you meet on a dating site --or somebody whose profile you come across-- has bitter things to say about love, relationships, or men, turn tail and run. You don't want to have to deal with that kind of emotional baggage. That's her shrink's job. There are plenty of women out there who look at love and men with a bright eye. Look for one of those, instead.
The Desperate Girl.
Some people are simply desperate to be in a relationship-- maybe you know the feeling. But there's a difference between being a little lonely and wanting so badly to be with somebody that you'll take anything you can get. Really desperate women on internet dating sites should be avoided because their fixation on having a relationship isn't healthy. You want to be with somebody who is a complete person on her own, right? If all she cares about is finding her "soul mate," chances are she's not that girl. You're better off looking for somebody a bit more balanced.
