According to psychologists, one of the very most important things in a man's life is his penis-- whether he's consciously aware of it or not. If you're a guy reading this article, this is probably a fact that you're already aware of. And if you're a woman, it may not come as much of a surprise. But from the moment he discovers that he has one as an infant, a man is fascinated (and somewhat obsessed) by his penis. And it's perfectly natural to feel that way; it seems to be wired into a man's DNA.
It's not necessarily a bad thing for your penis to be such an important part of your life-- it fulfills an important function, after all. The problem comes when you really start to worry about size. And when you push your size insecurities onto the women you sleep with.
A huge majority of the men out there have average-sized penises. Still, many men look around at other men --in the locker room, in photos, in porno movies-- and compare their penis to others'. They wonder if it might be, perhaps, a bit too small. Smaller than average, even. And just not enough to please a woman.
No matter how many times you've read that penis size is not the most important element of sex for most women, you probably still worry about your size. You might not think you're big enough, and so you assume that women don't think you're big enough, either.
But... does size really matter?
Most of you men reading this have read it before: most women don't care that much about penis size. To put it in perspective, I'll give you a bit of data from a recent study done on penis size in the UK. According to the study, 63% of average-sized men believe that their penis is below average in size. And 85% of women --most of whom are in relationships with average-sized guys-- are perfectly content with their significant other's penis size. And it makes sense. How many women do you see visiting internet dating sites looking for a bigger penis than their partner's, after all?
What, as men, you need to understand is that women care a lot more about orgasms than they do about penis size... and most women can't reach orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. So with regards to how a man pleases a woman, penis size is of less concern than, say, foreplay or technique. Hand and oral stimulation are generally better at getting a woman to orgasm than simple penetration. Not to say that the penis doesn't matter, but it's not as important to women in the bedroom as it is to men.
Now, it is true that there are women out there that prefer a larger penis. Even a gigantic one. And if an average-sized man dates a woman like this, he may have reason to worry that he's not giving her everything she needs in the bedroom. But women who need a large penis to get satisfaction from sex are few and far between. Most women are perfectly happy with average, or even below average sized penises. The size of a penis isn't the pinnacle (pardon the pun) of manhood to a woman-- that prize goes to his ability to give her an orgasm. After all, that's pretty much the point of sex, isn't it?
Men are always going to worry about penis size. Comparing your penis to another's is a behavior that's sewn into your genes-- it will probably never change. But as far as women are concerned, size is not the most important thing in the bedroom. In fact, if you stop worrying about your anatomy and concentrate more on her anatomy, instead, you'll have a happy woman in the bedroom no matter your size.
Samescuerra1958
51 / Male
Comments: 1
Posted on January 28, 2009, 9:05 pm
I worried so much, that one day, when i was hard, i actually measured, and found to be only a little over 8 1/2" long,,yuk,,,sure wish i was almost 9" long,,,and then i wouldnt worry so much about have a penis so short,,,
Poordeafman
41 / Male
Comments: 2
Posted on March 7, 2009, 9:30 pm
Many female hate my size was 6 1/2 thin becuse of my father did beating on me when i was young boy then missed to hit my butt for spanking then did hit my balls and little damage oh well ok smile..
