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For some people, making a romantic commitment to another person is as simple as breathing; you know your feelings and you know what you want, so commitment is easy. For others, the decision to commit is a difficult one. For these people, it can be difficult to decide if commitment is the right thing, or if they're jumping in too fast. Trying to decide if it's time? Here are a few signs that it just might be time to commit.

You don't like the idea of him or her dating. This works both with internet dating and traditional dating. If you don't like the idea of your date seeing (or chatting romantically with) somebody else, it may be time to commit. Even if you do like the idea of dating others, holding your date to different standards just isn't fair.

You both have it together. While getting along and having things in common is an important element of a successful relationship, it's also important to be in the right place in your lives. If both of you have stable lives, the chances of a relationship working out are higher. Plus, the more stable you are, the more room you'll have for a relationship.

You both have expansive personal lives. We've probably all had one of those unbalanced relationships where one person has very little in their life other than their partner. And those relationships don't tend to be very happy ones. If both you and the person you're dating have healthy, expansive personal lives with a supportive circle of friends and plenty of outside interests, you may be in a good position to begin a commitment.

The idea of not seeing him or her is painful. This is a big warning sign that your feelings for somebody you're dating are deepening, and that it may be time to act on them. Ever heard the expression "*blank* or get off the pot"? Well, that crude little phrase applies pretty well here. When it's time, it's time.

You both know what you want from a relationship. This is a sign of real maturity, and a good sign that your committed relationship really may work out. People who have goals for a relationship can go into a commitment with their eyes open. When both you and the person you're dating are in this situation, you already have the perfect foundation for a successful commitment. That is, if you are each able to give the other what he or she wants!

You have fun together. If you weren't sexually attracted to the person you were dating, you would probably not be asking any questions about whether or not you should commit, you'd know that you shouldn't. Even though physical attraction should be maintained throughout your relationship, it probably won't be the leading factor in its success. That job falls to having fun. If you have a lot of fun with the person you're dating, there's a very good chance that you will keep enjoying his or her company for a long time to come. If you're not having fun together, chances are it's not going to work... so why commit?

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