Sex is pretty much the icing on the cupcake of dating. It’s not always the most important thing (or maybe it is, depending on what kind of relationship you’re in / want), and the cupcake would be delicious without it, but oh man, does it ever make it sweeter. That said, there are an increasing number of people who, whether just by personal preference or perhaps in exhausted response to the heavily sexually saturated culture we live in, are choosing to not have sex. I know. Choosing to not have sex. Get your brains around that for a minute and then read these surprisingly sound reasons why keeping it in your pants might just keep you on the right path:
You get to focus on other aspects of the relationship
If you take sex out of the equation, you have to find other ways to fill your time together. It might not seem like naughty nuzzling is taking up the bulk of your couple time, but even if that’s not the case (and sometimes it is), it’s still surprisingly easy to get so buzzed from the physical chemistry the two of you share that everything in between romps is just that, something to do in between. If you stop making physical things the, um, climax of your days together, you might find you get more excited about the other ways you’re connecting.
Masturbation.
It’s like a little birthday present to yourself, whenever you want it. If you go through a deliberate period of not engaging in sexy times with a partner, it doesn’t mean you have to go without. I mean, if you decided to stop eating out so much, you wouldn’t just stop eating, right? Hell, no. You would cook at home more. And with practice, you can get really, really good at…ahem, cooking. And it’ll help you know more specifically what you want next time you go out to dinner.
If you’re dating someone during this carnal diet, chances are (if this isn’t true, you might want to reconsider your romantic involvement with this person) that after enough time, you want to jump each other so bad that everything you do together will seem like foreplay. And once you finally get going with the dirty dirty, the time you spent not doing it will make it all the more exciting when you do.
A break from certain stress.
Sex is fun. It’s like the most fun ever in my book. But there’s no denying that along with the pleasure comes the pain; the pain of dealing with birth control, making sure you’re having the safest sex possible and all the millions of questions that we crazy humans can’t help but to get neurotic about once we start sleeping with someone. I don’t know why it seems like relationships hover in the not-freaking-out, not-feeling-jealous, extra anticipatory phase until the point of coitus. I’m not saying your body and love life fall apart with the introduction of sex (I would never suggest that), but it is true that waiting for the introduction makes for fewer things to worry about.
