Posted on March 2, 2009, 1:10 am

What is the best way to tell a girl you like her without making her feel uncomfortable?

Posted on March 4, 2009, 4:33 pm

I am assuming you are looking for a ladies perspective, that being said I would try and figure out where her feeling are at. We usually give signals to show we are interested, if she appears interested in you in anyway I think you are totally safe in being open and honest. You might want to ask mutual friends to see if they have noticed anything. Sometimes it can be hard to determine which gestures or emotions are the ones you want especially when you are already showing interest.

Good luck and I really do think he could use a female perspective!

Posted on March 9, 2009, 4:03 pm

It is the blind leading the blind. Do not ask other people, be a man, this isn't junior high. And what do her feelings have to do with it? If she doesn't like you then do you magically dislike her? And lets assume she doesn't like you and you tell her you like her.
She would go home and think about you in a new light and maybe see you as a man. Considering you outside of the "friend zone". Then it is out of your hands, what a relief!

What happened to honesty? The only good dates and datable guys I have met all said "I like you".. Just straight up. No games, no guessing. Quite frankly if you can not even be as honest as that, I fear what kind of closed down, head game playing relationship you are willing to provide.

If she don't say or feel it back, oh well! You find out fast by being honest and you can move on with your life instead of wasting days and weeks on plots and schemes to figure out how she feels before you grow the nads to tell the truth and be emotionally honest (hee hee)

Posted on March 9, 2009, 4:37 pm

Actually erinlovely I wasn't proposing any games at all I was simply suggesting he find out if she was also interested?

He appears to already be friends with this person and sometimes even though you have deep feelings for someone, holding onto the friendship in the event the feelings aren't reciprocal is best!

Posted on March 9, 2009, 6:17 pm

ive just never been good at the whole telling a girl i like her. thats what the issue is. :(

Posted on April 23, 2009, 1:09 pm

Its the best advice and the advice people don't wanna hear. The only way you can avoid being rejected is by not trying at all. Your gonna get rejected so just get over it and have a beer. People need to quit being so shiftless all the time looking for loopholes. The only thing that girls do wrong is that they don't tell the truth why. If the dudes ugly, tell him so he doesn't waste his time thinking he isn't. To spare his feelings is to keep him in the dark, and thats worse in the long run. People need to stop being so inherently blind to reality and learn what efficiency is. Honesty is the best policy, stop sugar coating everything because its the reason why most people are so complacently dillusional.

Posted on May 15, 2009, 9:46 pm

You need to be honest , confident,but not cocky, and not to pushy.dont be afraid of her. if she rejects you just remeber there are 3 billion other women on this planet. Be yourself and if she doesnt like it her loss

Posted on July 25, 2009, 7:15 pm

I have the same problem that the topic creator has. And it's easier said than done for me to be straight-forward because I'm afraid I'll be rejected by my looks alone, which leads me to my thinking that women only care about looks.

Posted on July 25, 2009, 9:51 pm

Save yourself stressing & ask straight out!
It's not about rejection, no one is ugly to the one they are attracted to.
Friends are attractions you don't have romantic chemistry for.
Just as you see others, some romanticly some not.... so do women.

If she is attracted to you, shes waiting for you to ask, so she can answer you.
It's about wether she sees you on the same level your thinking at.
Ask!
Do you see me as a good friend or
Do you think you could see me as a romantic relationship in your future?
Than just except the answer.

Posted on July 26, 2009, 3:22 am

Why don't you just tell her that you like her?

Posted on July 26, 2009, 8:23 am

^-- that's too hard for me to do, I'm afraid she'll bite my head off. In fact, the more I like a girl, the more anxious I get and the more likely I think she'll bite my head off. I wish there would be some way a woman would give some indication that she likes a man without having to make a move. This women having complete control over the relationship is just plain stupid. It's the way it is, I know, but it's still stupid. I mean, if you're ugly, stupid, or both, the woman would be repulsed that you even have the nerve to try to talk to her, yet she gives absolutely no indication one way or another before you attempt to make your move.

Posted on October 20, 2009, 10:21 pm

Are you seeing someone or is this a girl you want to let know you like?

Posted on October 21, 2009, 4:56 am

thats alot of bullshit. she doesnt need to know you like her.. at least not with words, that feeling inside you get ..and you feel that if you just tell her how you feel she will like you ignore it completely.. girls are gonna give you advice telling you to just be honest and to say how you feel, but remember not all girls know what makes them attracted to the ppl they r attracted to.. and something very important she might like you, but she might not be attracted to you ( by telling her you like her, wont help, it wont mean much) someone could rly dislike you but be very attracted to you, and thats what gets ppl together.

Posted on October 22, 2009, 10:18 am

Girls like bacon, don't they?

Posted on October 23, 2009, 1:51 pm

go straight

Posted on October 23, 2009, 1:58 pm

If it's someone I just met, I would merely strike up a conversation. That's the first thing because through conversation I find on several occasions that my "like" was merely "lust" and once I realize that, a great friendship is formed. Likewise, my "like" for her was confirmed speaking with her upon which I'll ask if she wants to do something later. Talking about and telling you like her pales to doing something together. There is no substitute to actual interaction. So many things are conveyed to her through your actions as opposed to merely saying the words. You leave much more of an impression on her through your actions rather than just your words. She'll then think about you over sleep, or not, and the next day will be foretelling if there is something between you both. If there is, then you both can now proceed ahead. If there isn't, that's okay too because regardless of outcome, you have made a memory which you'll remember for the rest of your life.

Posted on October 23, 2009, 10:59 pm

I just told a girl plain out that I liked her, and she didn't have the same feelings for me, but she saw me as a man after that. Honesty is the best way to do things. Just be honest with her, tell her your feelings, and if she doesn't have the same feelings for you, then don't worry about it. Just be honest and tell her.

Posted on October 25, 2009, 9:01 pm

Go ahead and tell her, if she gets uncomforitable, she gets uncomforitable. I know you dont want her to be, because obviously you like her..but you wont be able to control her emotions. maybe try making a joke to lighten the mood..? just make sure your hands arent gripping her boobs when you decide to tell her..person experiance..not a good idea.

Posted on November 12, 2009, 10:55 pm

just say what's in your heart. girls love the truth and we hate hints just as much as men do. so just be blunt about it i guess you would say. and if she doesnt feel the same...well be a man suck it up and at least you know...and you still got your pride to go chasing after someone else down the road

Posted on November 15, 2009, 2:09 am

thats right! I like how you think. see-honest.

Posted on November 15, 2009, 4:08 am

I think there are few things you can do to overcome this fear.
a) saying surprises and paying complements like "I like you! or You are hot" to a girl makes her uncomfortable. You might ask me why it's normal for other people. Well, actually the difficulty is not WHAT you say but HOW you say it because nearly 60% of the whole conversation to somebody is done by our body language (eg. eye contact, gesture, the way you stand and talk etc), nearly 10% are speeking and the rest are things like the tone of voice.

Solution: get yourself a rather large mirror and stand up infront of it and practice these phrases untill you feel fully comfortable. Once you are comfortable with saying it, your body language will match the tone of your voice etc and now you have added a meaning to it. When they are collected as one package it makes you sound more geniune and honest.

@Remember if you are not comfortable with saying it how do you expect the receiver to be fine with it.

The second step is to pick the right place/time to say it eg. a restuarant or a cinema or if you are not sure find out what places she likes to visit. (You can do this even if you have just met somebody but be extra careful you do not reveal your intention as yet). When you have found out the things which put her in the right mood then you are safe to say things like "you like her".
@ scenario: someone ask you for direction and you just had an arguement with your work colleague. How do you respond? On the other hand if you have just met a beautiful girl and you've arranged to meet her. Would your response be the same as the previous one? Obviously NOT.

@Remember: it doesn't have to be in first meeting.

Lastly, You'll never know what will be in her mind at the time of saying it. If you don't try you will never get anywhere. Doesn't matter if you are rejected. It's not the end of the world. At least you have learned something from it which prepares you for the next one. Dating failure is like all other failure ie. money loss, homework deadline, missed an important appointment, missed you plane.

Obviously I am not a dating expert. This is my approach and I hope it works for you too.

Good luck.
Nik