Posted on May 22, 2009, 4:26 pm

Little bout myself, i was born in Canada but my parents joined the american army and i lived my life in nebraska...in small town of 380 ppl. Now you may think HOLY DAMN that means your class was like 16 kids right? yes... but i enjoyed it...getting in trouble running around the streets like a idiot and knowing each person in my class on a emotional level (we were together from 1st to 12th).... i dated a girl from my sophmore year till about a year ago... im 21 now and i was living in phoenix for the last three years with her we dated for almost 5 years. Well she cheated on me twice and i left her and came back to the midwest ...i have a bach in music comp and currently getting my masters here.

Im a very loud, fast talker, with a spontaneous attitude... i love the arts and if you first glance at me most ppl think i act kinda gay.. lol thats due to my mom and dad bieng military but my grandmother bieng a hippy i kinda took the honor, and respect form one world and mixed it withthe kindness and open heartedness of the other. Plus any good looking guy thats into musicals HAS TO BE GAY? right....? no ... lol (cough cough...did i mention i studied music in germany, italy, france, and switzerland for vocal?) so anyways heres my question...

i am only 21 but i feel like im thirty. I want a girl who loves to read and listen to music, and go to theatre and musicals... now i dont want to sound shallow but somone whos slim and in shape to like myself im 5'10 and 160 pounds i def keep myself fit... but its so hard to find that... i mean there some girls into that my age but, again not to sound shallow, there kinda...heavier set and i love them emotionally but sexually i would never be attracted and yes sex isnt everything but it is apart of a relationship to me.... now...the other half i find are in thier thirties and ...well i dont want to date somone in thier thirties. So...heres the question

Do i keep searching all my life for that girl (even tho i doubt she exists) thats my age till i turn 30! and finally meet a 30 year old that has finally settled down in life and likes those things ORRRRR

Do i just say screw it and date somone WAY older than me who has settled down and stuff?

AAAAHHHHH i hate this i know im only 21 so most of you are saying WOAH WOAH kid chill out go party have fun well i dont party and that stuff i cannot drink alcohol.... do to a heart difficulty i have had since childhood i cannot smoke nor drink alchohol....so thats another question is here a woman out there willing to date a man that might not live past this thirties?! ...help me women..help....

Posted on May 23, 2009, 8:47 am

OK, I'll wade in here with my 2 cents. Your question is whether you can find a 20- something who is into the same things you are, who maintains a settled-down demeanor. Not too likely. The twenties are where one should try out everything...see what YOU like, and where YOU fit. Maybe you could attract a 30 something who thinks like a 21 year-old and who doesn't want children. Small niche there, though. Give it a go. See what the 30 year-olds are REALLY like (sample several) and then think about it again. Ixnay on the "might not live past my thirties". TMI to attract someone, and it might not be so.

Posted on May 23, 2009, 10:12 am

Yeah i do attract alot of of older woman, its just depressing to know that there isnt woman my age that just want to have a relaxed life and not do the party scene and stuff *sighs* oh well keep looking i guess

Posted on December 16, 2009, 12:24 am

actually they're out there. I'm one of them. :) I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. Partly due to a family history of heart disease and alcholism but also because I don't care for it. I like to have fun, but I don't party party. I'd like to have a longterm relationship at some point since I'm a creature of habit. So once I decide I like something, I stick to it usually unless something monumental happens. Will you ever find the 'perfect' woman. Likely not. There will always be something you disagree on. However, you have to learn to compromise which is what a relationship is all about. Anyway, I wish you luck. And yeah, you do have quite a bit of time on your hands, though I can understand your yearning, even now.

Posted on December 16, 2009, 1:41 am

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Posted on December 24, 2009, 4:07 pm

hey Sora, First off, it's refreshing to hear that a 21 year old doesnt just wanna get laid by a bunch of different girls. My response is, I think maybe you're looking too hard. I know plenty of girls that want exactly what you want and they are beautiful, young, in shape, and intelligent. My opinion is "Never settle". You will find that girl that you're looking for, probably when you least expect it. Until then, enjoy the other things in life that make you happy. Good Luck! :)

Posted on December 24, 2009, 6:49 pm

May be you're roaming around older people than you. This is for the first time I come across such a story where a boy cant find someone his age, Women are usually with older men so howcome u can;t find a younger one for yourself?

Posted on January 19, 2010, 12:38 pm

you said you are a very loud fast talker. I'd suggest you stop talking and start listening to girls your age and you just might realize that they are right there but not interested in a blabber mouth know it all(which is how you probably sound).

Posted on January 19, 2010, 1:24 pm

Sora, I'm sure you're a nice guy and it sounds refreshing to hear about a guy who want's something more. However, you sound a shallow when you say you want someone who is not "heavier set." So what you're saying is you want the perfect girl--> someone who is thin, fit, likes music, is your age and is loyal. Good luck finding that Barbie doll, don't worry they're out there. (snort) What is wrong with dating with someone older than you? I have lots of female friends with younger husbands, and it works for them. I suggest you open your eyes and your mind a bit more...be open to anything. Isn't love supposed to be blind? If girl is older than you and maybe weighs more than you like but has an amazing personality and similar interests to you why not try it out? For someone who feels 30, you sound like a 13 year old demanding the "perfect" person to date. Good luck with that! And I totally agree with Leeloney, by the way. Don't be so closed-minded or you'll never be happy.

Posted on January 19, 2010, 1:29 pm

And by the way I'm under thirty and don't party. Some days I feel my age, others I feel 100 yrs old. Age and maturity don't have much to do with each other. I like music, and I did 5 years of the military life. I'm settled...I have a college education, no kids, my own home, car, no debt and know what I want out of life. But I don't look like a stick woman, nor do I want to. Maybe you should go back to Europe, where people are thinner. You sounds like you have some growing up to do. Quit whining. And be flattered someone is attracted to you, older or not.