Posted on July 6, 2009, 4:42 pm

Hey there Datepadders,
I was just wondering what your perspectives on Open/Polyamorous relationships are.

Polyamorous relationships (for the purpose of this thread) are relationships where both partners are equally committed to all their other partners, all partners know each other and partner swapping is common.
Open relationships are (once again, for the purpose of this thread) are polyamorous relationships with a hierarchy. There are Main partners who are committed to each other with separate relationships on the side. Partners may or may not know each other and partner swapping is uncommon.
Swinging is (once again, for the purpose of this thread) organized partner swapping which are mostly just sex. Any non-sexual interactions usually occur in a large community group in places like Swinger's Clubs.
Threesomes, cheating and other non-organized, non-consensual types of non-monogamy are not (by the definition used in this thread) polyamoury or poly/open relationships.

Sorry about all the definitions, but I thought I'd get them out in the open.
Lemme know.

Posted on October 17, 2009, 4:20 pm

im not sure if my current bf would like to us to be in an open relationship. i wonder if i might meet someone along the road whom i would be interested into..how would i know and how would i overcome it?

Posted on January 20, 2010, 8:35 pm

You are asking a question that truly, only you can answer. What floats my boat may well sink yours. Take a good look at you. 1) Are you the jealous type? Yes- go no further, No- proceed to next question 2) How would you deal with you or your partner, contracting something you may well regret. 3) How would you feel if either you were impregnated by someone else or your partner, impregnated someone else? On the same hand, how would you feel about being the center of sexual attention of others? The questions could go on forever, but you get the idea. It is STRICTLY you and your lovers decision to make. Peace and blessing "G."

Posted on February 10, 2010, 6:29 pm

I can see why peap have open relationsips and sum peap hate the idear of maongamy I think everyone is gillty of thinking blime would like abit of them on the side but I myself find it hard enough to find one woman in my life let alone two and when when I'm with a woman shes the only one for me.

Posted on February 10, 2010, 7:58 pm

I had my first open relationship last year. It was one of the best relationships that I had ever been in. The only problem was the person I was dating had some traits that I just didn't like so I eventually lost interest in her. I think with any open relationship it requires mature minded people. I have an ex who thinks she's mature but she isn't able to be in anything other than a traditional relationship and she couldn't handle the idea of sharing her guy. So if you can find somebody who can handle it an open relationship is the best thing ever. We are sexual beings and being able to be that person is a very freeing thing.

Posted on March 4, 2010, 6:28 pm

I would be more of a person whom is only into a couple situation. :) I wouldn't feel as if my significant other cared for me, if I was in an open relationship. I would be in fear, that he would leave me for the other.. to the thought of not having him for only me, for the rest of my life.. (I would also feel as if I was just a side-order.. devotion is gone, love of only you in care is gone, to extreme jealousy, mis-trust, to others would happen.. and most women are not into sharing their partner/ lover.

So, no. I am certainly not a fan of open relationships.
In my own opinion, I think it's an immaturity of *a one sided selfish non-commitment.*

Posted on June 6, 2010, 8:46 pm

I'd be more of a person who only a few situations. :) I do not feel as if my partner is worried about me, if I were in an open relationship. I fear that I went for the second .. the idea of not having fair to me, for the rest of my life .. (I feel like I was a garrison .. dedication was for the love of attention has gone to extreme jealousy, bad for competition, others are .. and most women do not share not a partner / lover.

So, no. I'm really not a fan of open relationships.
In my opinion, I think it is a page * immature selfish, without compromise.

Posted on June 7, 2010, 11:39 am

Your question is really, you can answer. What floats my boat, you can run your. Look good on you. 1) If you are the jealous type? Yes, go ahead, no go to question 2) How to deal with you or your partner, leaving some of which may well regret. 3) How would you feel if she was impregnated by another person or their partner, impregnated someone else? In the same hand, how do you feel to be sexual attention to other people? The questions could go on forever, but you get the idea. It is strictly you and your decision to make the two lovers. Peace and blessing "G."

Posted on June 7, 2010, 2:51 pm

It would suit me as I dont do jealousy and can be fond of more than one woman.I found that women who say they can handle it are the ones that develoip jealousy over a period especially if she's not getting enough from her partner,or her parner likes having sex more with one of his cohort part time partners.With me it would be fine,but I have yet to meet a woman who is totally jealous free.

Posted on June 14, 2010, 10:23 am

This world is becoming WAY too "open" as it is. People say it's being mature that allows them to be able to be in an open relationship, in fact it is the complete opposite and totally self centered way of living. They have a term used for you types that say yes... it's called Sexual Addiction! Get a shrink..