Posted on August 13, 2009, 11:44 pm

I don't get why a man would email me, call me, seem very interested and suddenly disappear. So what, he just changed his mind or something better came along. That's what suck about online dating. It's like window shopping, wait a little longer and you'll pass by the store that has what u want.

Posted on August 19, 2009, 11:19 am

You know, this fading works both ways. You may be really interested in his photo, profile, voice, and when he actually shows up.....ACK! He has the personality of a gnat. Our usual response to that is to ignore his calls (the feminine equivalent of "fading"). My opinion is that if he's coming on real strong.....calling, texting, emailing, etc., be wary. He doesn't know you enough yet to reject the real you. He's reacting to his fantasy of you (same as we do in the statement above). Then when you don't fit his fantasy, he fades. It's all in HIS head and has nothing to do with you. Just shrug it off and find Mr. Really There. Gotta kiss a lot of frogs, etc. That's the way it goes. "There's a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in."...Leonard Cohen.

Posted on November 18, 2009, 4:04 pm

roses cut to the heart of it. in the beginning it's all fantasy: text and pics on a screen. the internet in general has ushered in a new age of email break ups, anonymous impulsive gestures, and insincere solicitations. just try to recognize the transient nature of the medium, go with the flow, and keep yourself occupied with things away from the computer. don't get discouraged