Posted on August 7, 2008, 2:58 pm

I want to hear from a guy's perspective as to what he thinks about paying for dinner on the first date. Do you expect to pay for dinner or do you expect the woman to? Or each pay their own? And more importantly, why?

Posted on September 17, 2008, 11:37 am

I prefer to pay for the frist and all times that a woman and I go out together. That is the way my folks, especilly my mothertaught me. My mother, even though she was and is for womens right, always taught me that a man should be able to afford dinner and should pay for the dinner. As the relation grows, then the woman may pay for the dinner. But most of all, the man should always be able and willing to take care of the women.

Posted on September 20, 2008, 8:40 pm

Being a Southern Gentleman If I ask you out to dinner then I would expect to pay,after all I ask you to dinner. And there to If a lady ask you out for dinner would she not expect to pay?

Posted on September 20, 2008, 11:04 pm

I like to pay most of the time, especially on the first date. Call me old school.

Posted on September 21, 2008, 8:11 am

Sigh.....such real gentlemen in the midst. There's hope ladies!

Posted on May 1, 2009, 3:15 am

I would always expect to pay on first date!

All dates can be different, some ladies are so independent and get insulted if you insist to pay on first date..! so then i would nit push the point.. Then make it up other ways either her by buying drinks or taxi etc.. ;)

Posted on June 1, 2009, 9:14 am

i think i would pay for dinner the first time, but what if she gets accustomed to that, where she never offers to pay for dinner, of course the guy won't ask her to, that's just ignorant. one time i would like to see a woman pay for me, or pay for our own.
why does everything have to come down to who pays for what, relationship has not evan started, and there is money issues already.

Posted on July 22, 2009, 10:11 am

if its a huge bill its only fair to split...ifits a small bill i believe the guy should pay it...and if the girl offers to take the guy out the girl should pay it..its all a bunch of ifs

Posted on August 12, 2009, 10:57 pm

I always try to pay, even if Im low on cash. It shows responsibility and proves you're a true gentleman, in my opinion.

Posted on October 18, 2009, 9:46 am

First date i wouldnt go to dinner

Posted on November 4, 2009, 11:17 pm

No one should pay. After dinner you should each head to the restroom, preferably the same one but it's ok to go to gender oriented, wait one minute and head out the door. It works 9 out of 10 times. On that one time you get caught just blame it on the one that's already out the door by saying, "I thought he/she paid. Here let me get this." Then you'll be obligated but when you get out without having to pay it just feels faneffingtastic!

Posted on November 4, 2009, 11:42 pm

It depends Id either pay for the whole thing or go 50/50

Posted on November 4, 2009, 11:55 pm

i always pay for everything..i just hope the girl aint taking advantage..plus i open doors for her too..chivalry aint dead in my eyes..

Posted on November 5, 2009, 11:46 pm

depends i look the girl first...

Posted on November 6, 2009, 8:14 am

it is a give and take world but who wants be takin

Posted on November 11, 2009, 4:03 pm

I expect to pay for the dinner.. if she want's to pay for her own stuff, i'd be possitively surprised.

Posted on November 11, 2009, 10:59 pm

Ofcourse a man pays,how can he expect a woman to pay ,no matter who has invited for dinner/date.

Posted on November 12, 2009, 5:23 am

if ur a gentleman the you will pay 4 dinner wen ever u go out if ur a cock then no but its tradition basicaly isnt it

Posted on November 12, 2009, 8:57 am

what if both wanted to pay for dinner? Both men and women love treating their dates nice.

Posted on November 14, 2009, 3:30 am

I believe that whoever suggests the dinner date ought pick up the tab.
Having said that, it's also an excellent test: If he's invited me out I will always offer to go halves; his reaction is usually an excellent way to determine his values.

Posted on November 15, 2009, 5:46 pm

I prefer to pay because I look at it as a way to accommodate my date in order for her to be comfortable. She's already nervous as it is on a first day (or any other date there after) so the last thing she needs to worry about is the bill for dinner, movie, show, etc. Besides, I am to be the provider so "dating" should not be any different. With that being said, if my date insists to pay for the bill then I can accommodate her because I wouldn't want to come across like macho or appear to be "holier than thou" by refusing her wishes or request.

Posted on November 15, 2009, 10:04 pm

I would definitely pay... even if we were just friends... its a respect thing.

Posted on November 15, 2009, 11:05 pm

if a man asks a woman out for dinner it is only right if he pay for the meal.once they have dated for awhile then things can go however.i was taught that the man pays for dinner on the first date.call me old fashion but that is my perspective on that matter